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writes:Me and my lovely with get along very well although in the beging of things we went through a lot in understanding each other.to be exact we been together for seven years,one of those legally married.my wife is very understanding although very jealous sometime,she beutiful,caring,our sex life is really good cos she really turns me on and i enjoy makinglove to her and she enjoys it as much,we have two children aged six and year old.the problem is i cant deal with her past sexual history,in the begining of the relationship she put it into detail how and who took her virginity,who was she invovled with,how her last boy friend booked a hotel for them,took her there had a very rough session of sex with her and never made rest.in the morning gave her cash for the taxi anthen went their separete ways.she said she could hardly walk due to hectic session they had a night before,according to her womb wasnt well positioned in her tummy due to rough thrasing they had.her ex called and took her from her home to one of his relatives where they continued to have sex trying to positioned her womb.please people help me icant seem to make peace with the above metioned,i sometime get angry with for no reason or when she is playing hard toget for lovemaking session.al the above she told me because she didint want me to treat like het ex,i love my wife but please please help me to be able to move on thank u all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): It's all about evolution. There are perfectly logical reasons for retroactive jealousy if you just think farther back than one or two generations.
The subject has been covered MANY times in the past. It is one of the most common types of questions being asked year after year. It just doesn't have a standard category on Dearcupid because mens emotional issues are not shown the same respect as womens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys i really appriciate your advice,it is very difficult,but i will make it work.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Has she told you this more than once?Does she keep telling you about her past sex life?I just find many men with this problem. Is it ego, ownership, I've asked this before.I've made this blunder myself, not really understanding what I was doing to my lovers ego.I really thought it might even get him excited because I know how men visualize and get heated over sexual stories.But not with there own women, like we're supposed to be virgins with no pasts. I have received feed back like "was he bigger than me", "I bet he never did this", "did you do it on this bed"I realize that my men have slept with other women and I've even asked how they did things, curious. I've even felt jealous and made great effort to top the others. Some I could never keep up with. But I bring alot of to the table anyways so I don't really feel bothered by it.What really bothers me about a RS is if a guy had a better friendship with his past ex(s). Now that I can't top, I am just a me being me. These are the RS's I usually break away from because in the long run best friends will always be sought after for their depth as a human being, sex will be sought after only as a release from current events.You say you have a great sex life, ask your wife what it is that makes you a Don Juan in her life. You will probably be quiet happy to know you the sexiest man alive.I've jumped through sexual hoops before, but the best sex is a good RS with admiration, respect and security knowing you've got each others backs in the ruff moments in life.That kind of sex is priceless. I don't think she's thinking of anyone but you when you are both doing the dirty. But as they say "Ask and you shall receive" Talk about it cheaper than therapy.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (13 April 2011):
Well. It's very common for a woman to be very different in bed depending who is in the bed with her. So it's normal she was wild with her ex, and she is different with you. You can read a lot of such stories in the net.
In the other hand is her past. Which isn't the past any more because she told you too much about it in the present. This is a really big mistake. Because there is no way of taking that out of your mind. And believe me, you will never forget this. Hopefully the things you feel when you remember that will fade away, and you won't be as hurt as you are now.
Maybe you would like to try therapy, I think that could help you. But again, it will never be out of your head as if she never told you.
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