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writes:I have been in a relationship for 2 years we moved into together last Oct. I love him very much but I feel like he will never ask me to marry him. I know the past is the past but he was with someone for 8 years and never had any intenetion of marry her they bouhgt a hosue together and then one day she finally got tired and left. He said he was unhappy with her but didnt like change so he stay in the relationship knowing he was never going to marry her. He dosent communicate well at all so I have to figure out his feelings on my own I know he loves and care for me but I cant help feeling that he will never make that commintment to me. I feel we have a great relationship we are not just lovers we are firends as well.They only problem is I am getting older and I want to be married. When I talk to him about it he says he wants to marry me but that as far as it goes. I guess I am need to know how to approach this situation without saying if it not going to happen then I think we need to break up
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reader, raiders +, writes (9 June 2010):
 You might have to give him an ultimatum, but be prepared in keeping your word if he doesn't want to commit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere comes a time when you have to say I need to think about me
we love each other but I want to get married he doesnt want to take it any futher then being in love with me. I need more even though i dont want to hurt him but he has know what I wanted from the begining. He also told me he wanted that as well but I guess he has changed his mind or is to scared There nothing I can do We are not teenagers we are in out late 30s so this should not be such an issue
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reader, raiders +, writes (9 June 2010):
Guys don't want to be pressured into marriage but he had a history of being in a long relationship which ended up in a breakup. I believe in this case you do have to tell him how you feel. I agree with you if you want to get married he has to be in the same page in order to move forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): well, maybe he just doesn't want to rush it or push your relationship. he obviously loves you, getting a house together is a big thing. but do you really need to get married for him to show he loves you & is commited?
if your willing to break up with him about it & you can't work out how he feels, maybe he isn't husband material in the first place. a relationship is built on trust & good communication. tell him how you feel & tell him you want him to ask you.
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