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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:my life is so confusing......im currently seeing my ex boyfreind and we are so in love but im seeing him behind my mams back because she has it in to her head that he is gay....he is the most sweetest lad you could ever ask to be with and i dont know why she has such a big problem.....i am currently apply to work away with him as we met when we both worked away and i loved it...my mam doesnt know im planning to work with him she thinks im working away with my friends and because she thinks i spend soooo much time with my "friends" actually the lad i am seeing shes starting to think im a lesbian! the problem with my mam is that she wont let me live my own life..im 19 years old and she asks me questions all the time about who i am with what i am doing and i know she cares but i dont know any other mother that has soo much control over their children.... i need help i am sick of her and dont know what to do...i hope you understand how i have explained this just that it is all in my head and i cant write it as good as i can say it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): Good advice from Jmo!
The next time she insinuates he's gay, just say something like "That's odd - when we make love he doesn't seem to be anything like a gay boy - he gives me multiple orgasms".
That ought to fix her for a while.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (13 January 2009):
it sounds like she has a problem with close friendships of any kind, first she suspected he was gay now she reckons you're a lesbian?!
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 First, why do you refer to him as your ex if you're seeing him and the two of you are in love? Why can't you tell her you're seeing him? Why does she think he's gay?
Second you said "i dont know any other mother that has soo much control over their children". I know ALOT of mothers who have an obscene amount of control over their adult children and seriously need to cut the cord already. You're an adult and it's time you stick up for yourself and your decisions. If she can't respect them right away, she'll have to learn how to deal with it or risk losing her daughter. Don't lie to her, and in the meantime start thinking about geting your own place.
-Jmo
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