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writes:I have been married for over 15 years and my children have left home. I married my husband because I got pregnant by accident and because his family were catholic I felt I couldnt get rid of my baby. I lived away from my home town as felt very lonely. Anyway, I married him (although I wasnt too sure I was doing the right thing). I never had a SPARK for him. He is a lovely person. Is there a difference between loving someone or being in love with someone? I have been thnking over the years have I missed out on meeting Mr Right. Or am I really happy but bored? We never argue because we are both so easy going, but I feel like I have missed out on THE SPARK in life with someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): Who in this world actually meets Mr./Mrs. Right? Very few!
If you both get along well, the spark is for hormones and the movies. You rarely fight, so I assume your both in agreement, and if so, I think allot of marriages wish they had that.
Have you asked your self why you or don't feel this spark? You need to soul search yourself and him to find the answer. Is the spark something you really want? What is the spark in your own words; in his own words? How can you get both of you to compromise to get that spark on the same level. I think if you ponder itlong enough in the soul search, you'll find out you both had it at your feet, but didn't do something with it.
You've raise kids and now they have left. This can take a toll on the parents. They now find themselves with to much time. Sometimes, we take the wrong approach and look at our partner for the cause when we should first look within. Once you have some concrete facts, then talk to your partner. Make it a mutual game to learn more about each other, desires, and then meet them together.
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