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writes: Im an totally sexually deprived. My husband does not have any sex drive. We tried to fix this problem , but never got better. But now, I realized, if I dont want to leave ,its better just leave him alone.He is nice guy,I don't know what happened to him. It is a 23 year marriage,and we have kids,they are adult now, we have all the privacy,but no sex. We are too young to this. So I started to masturbate,and I feel so dirty somehow,because sometimes I do it ,right in the bed ,beside him. I feel so depressed,because I do not want to look for an other man,but it looks like I have needs. I wish I wouldn't.Sometimes it is worst ,like if I see sex on movies etc. But my problem is ,that masturbating does not make me feel better. How else I can resolve this painful issue,and not wreck my marriage? Thanks
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reader, inquisitor  +, writes (7 May 2010):
I don't want to get into a public discussion in this thread about my situation, which is off topic to yours. But I am more than happy to continue the discussion privately if you choose to write me a private message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): Dear inquisitor !I was very interested to get some more info from you,if you read this . Why there is no intimacy with your wife? Are you angry at her? Does she know that,or is this just a passive reaction from you? Please let me know,it sounds like an interesting idea,even if its a bit sad! Let me know.
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reader, inquisitor +, writes (29 April 2010):
I think your issue with masturbation is separate from the celibacy issue.
What do you mean by "We tried to fix this problem , but never got better"??
It's one thing if it's a physiological problem. It's another if its psychological. I have a similar issue with my wife. She wants it regularly, I almost always say no. We haven't done it in months. I don't want sex because I have no intimacy with my wife. Perhaps your hubby has some sort of issue with you that he's not sharing..
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reader, pyan  +, writes (29 April 2010):
Hi
why do you see masterbation as dirty. its normal and you should use it. men do so there is no reason woman cannot. we have the same issue. i have ED at the present and my wife always said she could take it or leave it but when its not there she misses it.
so she as started to masterbate more often. some time i will watch and tell her what to do and other times she does it alone.
it does turn me on watching her so that my work too for you give it a try and let us know how you go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): Well i dont know how you feel about oral but that is another way to enjoy each other and i have to tell you even though he might not be able to get up he can still cum .Dont be so hard on him or yourself there are ways you can enjoy each other and there are toys he can use on you give um a try you never know it might revive him and might just help things to get up a nd running again . Good Luck !
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (29 April 2010):
Gosh I should have gone to be it is 0030 hrs. What can I say you are indeed young and as a woman have maybe as much sex drive as ever. You are most certainly not dirty just normal, and lonely?
Two quick points Doctors and counselling? If this continues you will want sex with someone else and that is when issues will really start. pleas etell him this and make it clear what you want - penetration and sex action?
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