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writes:I am 26 years old. I have been married for two years, and I have a 1yr old son. Im currently pregnant with me second child.I love my husband, and he's a good man. He works hard, never raises his voice to me, nothing to complain about, and yet I have feelings for someone else also.My "highschool sweetheart" I suppose you could call him. I have still have feelings for him. I think of him him costantly and my heart still drops whenever I see him.I dont know what to do, I feel awful. Do I love my husband or oldest friend in the world?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Hi there, You feel you still care for your highschool
sweetheart. You have been married for two years, you have a one year old child, these are major changes in a person's life. Your old boyfriend has had changes in his life as well. As we get older, we evolve into different people than we were just a year ago sometimes. You may be holding on to a fantasy, he has changed, you have changed, you may not even be compatabile at this point in time. In my opinion, you should work at building your relationship, with your husband. Do you love your husband? In my opinion, you care
for him, you must decide if you love him, he seems like a nice person. I don't know why you did not continue with your highschool friend, or why you broke up, but that is so in the past. There is something that I call, chasing ghosts, running after something that does not exist, something that you have transferred all this emotional capital onto, but they exist in your mind. The person that you think they are, could be so different than they really are, even if you knew them in the past. Events have a way of changing us into who we become.
Let this feeling that you have go, you have a child with your husband and are expecting another, these children need a stable home, with a mother and father, not that you don't deserve what you feel you need, but what is that, you don't know that your old friend would even want to be bothered, if he would want two children in his life. Don't blow it and wind up with nothing. It's not worth it. Your life is good, be thankful, and try to be as happy as you can. Take care.
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