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writes: My husband is a work-a-holic. He has lost a tremendous amount of weight because all he does is work! He doesn’t eat, barely sleeps, and as a result has little time for me and the children. Recently, he was in a car accident, and there have been other occasions where he’s fallen asleep at the wheel. I would rather be a beggar on the street than see him lose his life because he’s working so much! Having my husband around is more important than having bills paid. I appreciate what my husband does, because there are a lot of sorry men that won’t work. I’ve talked to him about it, and I believe he understands, but he just can’t seem to break himself from excessively working. At this point, I feel like a single mother with two kids.And honestly, if I didn’t know my husband loved me, I would be gone. But how can I convince him about the damage? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): I suggest that you see if you can get him to agree to a vacation, away from work, and explain to him that you two need to reconnect. Leave the kids, and go someplace remote. No phones, no web, no email... Mexico has some good out of the way places. Focus on yourselves and your relationship. Use this time to reconnect and set some goals for your relationship.
Odds are good that after a week, he'll try to return to his old ways, so you need to establish an alternate plan for him to committ to some changes... date nights are good, no work nights, no internet... it might take baby steps, and some couples work... don't be scared to try a few sessions with a councilor.
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