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writes:HI....its wid great pain i type this..my guy and me are in love since a yr and quarter and for recent months we are in frequent fights about him being so careless to me.i talked a lot several times to him but nothin changed.problem is he seems to spend more time with his friends and others and i get very hell on to my nerves when he makes me wait for hours together when being with them. also he doesn show any change to wat i say. kindly help me out. i need him at any cost.thanks!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): I am a true believer in any relationship that is this hard to maintain is not worth persuing
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Well it is healthy for a guy to spend time with his friends just as much as his girlfriend. You are still young and you have gone past the honeymoon stage of your relationship. I guess he just likes relaxing with his friends but he still needs to meet your needs as well and not ignore you completely. I think that yes he does need to make more of an effort. But maybe you should play him at his own game and ignore him and maybe he might start taking notice. Sometimes men miss the chase and he might feel like you are nagging him. I guess you need to put the fun back in to the relationship. I think you should wait for him to contact you and get him thinking that he needs to start chasing you again. He will be putty in your hands in no time.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Hi
well just sort of understood that, but I think maybe his realised that things are getting serious , and his not quite ready for the full on thing just yet, but if he didn't want to be with you he would have gone. Give him some space , let him do his man/boy things, and maybe he will see your not trying to smother him, but just want to be with him. What us women forget sometine is when we are with someone we start acting more like their mother than a lover, and thats what they miss, the excitment, the lusting for one and other, put back a little of the spark that was there in the begining, and he will soon start rushing back into your arms. Have you ever read the book men are from mars, women are from venus?? read it :) men are like elastic bands, the more you want from them , the more they stretch away from you, but the more you leave them to their own devices, the more they will shrink back to you. Not the words tht are in the book, but from what I get from it, and maybe you will too.xx
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