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writes:I have been dating this guy for 10 months now. Initially it was all great between us.We were like the completely in love couple. But in the past few months things have gone haywire. We have started fighting a lot. Its majorly over this guy who I used to like before and now even he likes me. So now my guy gets super insecure over him. Sometimes he asks me not to talk to him and sometimes he asks me to reduce the amount of talking. When I do it he never appreciates it. He always criticizes me over every little mistake I make. Recently he also started insulting me a lot. He says things like I have ruined his life, ruined his life, put many restrictions on him. But later on he says he said all that out of frustration and apologizes for the same. I don't know what to do. I love him a lot. I can't bear to be without him. Please suggest something!
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reader, biba  +, writes (23 February 2013):
from the way i see it , he's only jealous..
guys get insecure when they fear losing their girl
just make him believe u love him, and help him feel secure with you
best of luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much buddy for that! Really appreciate that! Especially the first line u said. U have just made it more easier for me. N yes I might have teeny tiny feelings for that guy coz he treats me so well n m so comfy talking to him! But that doesn't mean I would ever leave my guy for him! Coz I LOVE him! Thanx a million love! (:
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reader, random074  +, writes (23 February 2013):
From what you have said i can tell that he loves you a lot! He is scared he's going to lose you, and he probably thinks that you are being a little insincere about this whole situation. He is angry inside, and wants you to understand how much it upsets him that you and this guy are getting on soo well. This is normal male instinct. Your bf is the alpha male and you ARE his. I don't mean that in an old fashioned sense that takes females rights away or anything, but this is just basic human nature. Imagine if a girl more attractive than you started flirting with him, and he enjoyed it. This should help you understand how he is feeling...and if it doesn't, then you obviously don't have as much love for him as he has for you, in which case you should end it, date the other guy, realize that the grass isn't greener on the other side, then go crawling back to your bf and beg for him back, and just pray that he says yes. I think you still have feelings for this guy you "used to" like. Stop lying to yourself. Maybe one day it will be socially acceptable to have more than one lover, but atm is isn't.Goodluck
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