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writes: Hello everybody.I have a bit of a problemThe thing is, there is this girl(original huh?) and i really REALLY like her a lot. Actually that's an understatement. let's say i love her. a lot.But ok, here's the deal. i hooked her up to her current boyfriend, who is a good friend of mine. And it boils down to the fact that i want her, REALLY bad, and i am one of her best friends at the moment. i hooked her up with her current bf because she loved him, and well i helped her (i'm actually quite experienced in love stuff only though im just 16)And she is very nice and a bit flirty to me too... And she has doubts about her current boyfriend.. because i know him, he is the type that likes to hunt and the first few weeks of a relationship. He just gets... uninterested after a while. I've tried to tell her that without being a giant dick, which has worked (because it's the truth) and i heard some other people i know said it to her too. and she understands, but she loves him..But i know that she likes me too, not as much as she likes him (not at the moment) but she likes me. We would really fit well together i am certain. He has better looks, but on the inside, i know i am better. and i'm not trying to be arrogant or anything, but i just would NEVER ignore my girlfriend, i would never cheat i would be very considerate and nice without being boring. Seriously, she is simply too good to do anything else. but for him, she's just another girl (or so i think..) though of course he tells her he loves her, and he says the same to me. but i know him, he could lie without guilt about this.She always asks me for help with her relationship problems with him (they have been seeing each other for about a month or 2) and he is starting to ignore her a bitFor example, me and her were at an picknick with our exhange students (needless information , sorry) and she texted him really sweet like, hey i am at this picknick and it's very nice and what are you up to? but of course much sweeter ;) and a bit longer, and he did not reply. And as a text she asked me to text him a fun text (BOEM!) (meaning boooom in english) and see what he replied, and immideatly he replies to me. and that happens often, he just ignores her... and she another kissed boy after being REALLY drunk (seriously, she did not know what she was doing) and he was flirting heavily with another girl after drinking 1 beer, while she was in the room..I just feel like i would be so much better for her, no let me rephrase that, i KNOW i would be so much better... i know them both very well : )but i'm a bit afraid she will stay with him, she really needs to have a boyfriend, she has bipolar too. which he does not even know.. when i say she needs a boyfriend, i mean she really needs a boyfriend and falls in love easily, and gets attached VERY heavily (just like me) it's a bit the opposite of the fear of binding. 3 years ago she heard i loved her, and she told me i am soooo sorry i dont love you... at the time she had just broken up with another boy that she would get back after 2 weeks, so it was probable that she was way too busy with that... and at that time i had just turned 13, and i must say i was a bit of an idiot at the time... i was quite ugly, had horrible hair, and my manners and personality were quite bad.. i am changed now, much better in every way.sooooooooooI would really love some suggestions (A)There is more to this story, and i have not written it very well, because 1: i'm not english 2: im quite emotional at the moment 3: it's late in the evening where i live...
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reader, Abella  +, writes (26 June 2011):
 you are very welcome, i love reading feedback, regards, Abella
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the answer!!! As it turned out, her current boyfriend left her, and i supported her a lot. She still loves him very much though! But luckily, i have found a very nice attractive girl, and i'm her boyfriend now. We get along really nicely, and the other girl is happy for me, she truly is a good friend. I'm not as into her anymore, seeing i now have a really nice girlfriend, but if my current relationship fails(could last looong :D) then maybe... But at the moment i'm happy .though she isnt... I try to support her as much as i can though!Again, thx for the advice!!
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reader, Abella +, writes (25 June 2011):
hi, i think if you can be patient, and act well around her, continue to be her ROCK who she can rely on, come and ask you about things, then when she is a little older and more mature, she will see that you are the Real Deal.
In the meantime counsel her to take care of her heart, as it does seem that her current guy will move on. Also just hope she sees your true worth soon. Or perhaps you may have to even realise that it may take a couple more relationships before she recognises your genuineness and reliability all along.
If she is getting into guys too quickly and too intensely then the other issue is getting pregnant to guys who will not stick around. I hope she uses good protection. Becauses sometimes people who are Bi-polar can be very impulsive and need support to think things through calmly, and not just act, then think of the consequences later.
But if she truly does not find you as attractive as the flirty player guys then find yourself a girl as kind, caring, genuine and as true as you.
Hope it works out well for you.
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