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*gonyauntlisaxxxx
writes:Ten Months ago, I had a break down, Depression n my ex of 2 years dumped me over msn for a girl he worked with, he emotionally abused me for two years that we wos together for. Recently he admitted he still had feelings for me, I don't have any feelings but hate and heartache and depression he caused me. I've recently got engaged and love my Fiancee a lot and he makes me happy but my ex is just in the back of my head and I block out the memories, How can I erase him for good ?
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reader, Hopeful Romantic  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Either let him talk to him or don't, but if you don't, I suggest stop answering his phone calls. That's what I do w/ my ex... no matter how many times he calls, I just do not answer and I erase his voicemails. He will eventually start calling less when you stop answering.
As for your class, I'm not sure what to tell you about that... if you are a strong student and keep up w/ your grades, you need to go talk to a councelor or a teacher and figure out what's going on; don't let it linger.
As for the job interview, it is hard for almost everybody to find a job!!! It took me 6 or 7 months before I found a job, then I got fired after 3 months and it took me almost another year before I found something decent. Things are better now, but for a while there, I thought the world was against me and now I see that it's not.
You do have something going for you... you are engaged! And he loves you! A lot of people can't even find that.
I hope it all works out for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Hunny,
sometimes everything seems to go wrong at the same time, Testing us I feel, You should let your fiance sort this out with the ex as he sees this upsetting you and wants to protect you, I understand you feel it may make matters worse but how worse could they get he needs to be told, my fiance would be the same infact he would just do it.
You are feeling down with all this so everything is going to feel like a major crisis, Sort the main thing out and hopefully your mind will be a little more at rest to cope with other daily problems you are having I do hope you get some peace of mind soon hunny take care love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, agonyauntlisaxxxx +, writes (8 November 2007):
agonyauntlisaxxxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Things are getting worse, My ex has contacted me twice in the last two days and it's driving me crazy and my Fiancee wants to go have words with him n I shud let him but I won't, I put up a fight and tell him it isn't worth it. He's not worth it. I also found out from my college that they haven't issued me a certifercut for passing my course theres a major like query on it to find out what's gone wrong. And I went for another job but heard nothing about my interview. Will Anything go right? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Hunny,
You have been through alot and in time the bad memorys will fade, I had a terrible abusive marriage which caused me to have a breakdown and I thought at that time my heart had been ripped in two and would never mend, But you have a good relationship now and you are stronger that you think belive me if I can get myself back after what happened then sweetheart have faith in you that you are the strong one your ex was the weak one.. I hope this helped a little take care love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Hopeful Romantic +, writes (2 November 2007):
I think about my ex a lot too even though he mentally abused me (as well) and I was the one who broke up with him!
When I get to thinking about him, feeling sorry for him, or even think I miss him, I just sit there and think REALLY hard about all the bad things he did to me and some of the mean things he said to me and all the times he embarrassed me and usually that helps.
I will literally try to think about the bad things so hard I will eventually get mad about it all over again and then I can tell myself, thank God we are not together any more. He did NOT deserve me!
The fact that you want to erase him out of your memory forever, well that is going to be hard to do unless you are diagnosed with dementia and I doubt that is going to happen. So, the best advice I can give you there is give it time. If the man you are with now really makes you happy, then his love will over power your thoughts for your ex and you will eventually not care any more.
I hope so! Good luck!
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