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writes:I'm an 18 year old female and I have never been so confused in my life. A few months ago, I dated a guy online, a friend of a friend that goes to school here. The problem was that it was a long distance relationship. He broke up with me about a month into the relationship saying that the distance was too much for him to deal with. Yet, after the kinda bickering over why we broke up ended and we both had some time to breathe, we started talking again.Now this time it was just as friends when we started talking, but he quickly told me that he still loved me and wished that we could be together, and I felt the same way. I love this guy with all of my heart. But he felt that he needed to move on and found another girl, closer to him, and they started dating, only for him to get hurt when this girl tore him to pieces making him hate himself. Of course he came to me for support, and I helped him pick up the pieces to move on. But now he is back to telling me how much he loves me and so on. I feel the same way still, but have recently met a new guy who live about 15 mins away from me. He reminds me a lot of my ex and everything seems to be going really well. We are planning on considering dating when I move back to school in the fall and he wants to try and visit me at home while I'm there for the summer. I don't know what to do for the plain fact that I do love my ex, with all my heart, but this new guy has found his way into my heart, and I want to try to give him a chance. I'm so confused and don't know what to do! If anyone has any tips they would be greatly appreciated =)
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reader, xX_Debz_Xx +, writes (22 April 2009):
xX_Debz_Xx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo now the new guy... apparently he knows my best friends boyfriend and hates him... so Im stuck in the situation where I can't be with him cuz im not going to deal with the drama...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Go for the real live relationship any time. Things have to be really good for them to survive such distance. The other guy could be just using you for emotional support in between girlfriends.
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (16 April 2009):
Personally id give this new guy a chance, at least then you will never live on the what ifs, if it doesnt work then at least you gave it a shot, its better to take the risk than never know. As for your ex well its taken him time to relaise what he wants hasnt it? and a woman in between who had to hurt him for him to realise what he now wants back, and there you were to pick up the pieces, good on you for that but never be somebodys back up. It didnt work for a reason and the distance hasnt altered so how will the relationship and the many issues and doubts it once held?
Your right to be confused, thats another plus mr new guy holds too! no confusion, no past history its all a fresh i think thats what you really need.
Your ex carried on life without you once before ok he came back but maybe just too late? you cant spend your life waiting around for somebody and adjusting to suit them when they need you too. Youve been given a new chance which i see as a blessing so grab it woth both hands and bloody enjoy it, its about time you had some funa and i think this new guy could tick all the boxes, hes something new and he seems genuine. Have your fun yet at the same time dont fall to deep, your heart is all over the place and is still adjusting, never give it up for one man it always back fires.
Try not to compare him to your ex too much, hes different and if you wanted your ex then thats where you should be, nobody will match up to him, each guy is unique but i think a good change is what you need so go grab it.
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