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writes:... Okay... I don't really know how to say this but... I love my cousin. Whenever he's not around I miss him, when he's there I'm still thinking about him and wondering if he's thinking about me. We see each other quite alot and so we're rather close. I don't know why I feel like this and I'm terrified of him finding out because I told my girl cousin( his sister ). We're going on holiday soon and I don't know what I'm going to do :S so that you know were not blood related and he is four years older than me. I don't need you to tell me that it's illegal to marry your cousin because it not were I live and I don't want to marry/ have sex with him. I don't need you to tell me anything about god and stuff coz I'm an athiest. I also don't need you random hatred to tell me who I can an cannot love.My emotions are getting the better of me and he has been giving me signs of liking me too.Please help me because I also kind of want to let him know how I feel. Xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Yeah, oddly I fell in love with my cousin and he fell in love with me at roughly the same time. We're older but have always been this way, "close" from when we were kids. Please be careful. I thought that it would be okay... finding out so much research and everything, it's legal, this and that. But in the end, things can turn bad real fast. The family found out and it literally exploded after that. Our family isn't even close, but just so you know, we're not really able to talk anymore, this is just recent, both of our lives got turned upside down because of it. I am an emotional and mental wreck. I honestly wish that we had just kept it all a secret for the years to come, even though that was horrible but this is worse. Much worse.
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reader, Ellecanhelpyou +, writes (26 July 2010):
Ellecanhelpyou is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, it helps alot and I'll let you know how things turn out :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): Iknow how u feel, I've been in the same situation before. When I was younger I fell in love with a cousin who I was blood related with, and who was also 10 years older. But cause of distance things didn't really work out.Now seeing as u are an athiest, well there is no religious aspects on this. And him not being blood related makes it a little less complicated, at least compared to my former situation and others.U can't help who u fall in love with, I say u talk to your cousin about it if u feel that he might also like u too. If he feels the same way, don't hesitate on being together. Sure u may be discriminated by others, have a lot of problems with your family, and possibly they might even try to keep u guys apart, it depends on your family. But when u really love someone, you will do anything to be with them, even if it means fighting for it. But I think him not being blood related makes it easier. And things might be different.Hopefully it goes well in whatever u decide to do, and don't let anyone keep u from being with the person your heart wishes to be with.
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Think about this though, if you don't want to marry or have sex with him what is the point of pursuing him?
I'm thinking about this as if he's not your cousin. The literal point of dating is to eventually find someone to marry and that comes with sex.
But being as he is your cousin,it complicates a lot. You are close and you clearly enjoy being close with him. But there is a risk to telling him how you feel in this situation, a big risk.
He does love you in some way, he's family. So no question there, he cares about you. But in a more then friends/family way...only he can say.
I ask you this though, what would the rest of your family say?
I also think that if he's not blood related it might not be as weird, but every family is different and I don't know your family so only you can answer that one. I know my family would this its gross, please don't take offense to that, but I know that more families are more open about that sort of thing.
But before worrying about that, talk to your cousin. Hope for the best yet expect the worse. I really hope that it will result in him loving you back and you'll be happy.
Good luck.
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