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writes:I just need some advice So I've been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now and it's going great! It's the best relationship I've ever had. However there is this guy who I work with, and like we talked for ages and got really close as friends, then it got apparent that he had feelings for me, he knew I had a boyfriend. I tried a few times to set him straight without hurting his feelings because I still wanted to stay friends with him, but I think he got tired of getting nowhere and now won't talk to me at all. What I need help with is I don't know why I care so much and why I miss talking to him so much. I love my boyfriend, but I can't get the guy from work out of my head and hate that we don't talk anymore.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 June 2017):
 You need to leave the guy at work alone and you will soon forget about him. You know he wants more so it is selfish off you to try and keep him as a friend when you know he does not want that and it may end up hurting him. Let him go and in time you will soon stop thinking about him.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (3 June 2017):
 You and the guy at work had different agendas. He wanted more than to be just friends. Sadly there is no compromise in this sort of situation. You have to make a decision: either you dump your boyfriend and go after the other guy, or you concentrate on your relationship with your boyfriend and cut all contact with the other guy.
OF COURSE you miss talking to him because you thought of him as a friend. HOWEVER, he wanted more from you and, in my opinion, did the right thing by backing off once he knew this was not on the menu. He is protecting himself from further hurt, which is understandable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2017): How would you feel if you found out your boyfriend couldn't stop thinking about some other girl?
How would you feel if every chance he gets, he tries to talk to her; because he thinks she's really pretty, and knows she likes him maybe more than you do?
Think these thoughts and your boyfriend will be more on your mind than the other boy.
Like N91 says, you need to leave the other guy alone!
It's not that you just want to be friends so much. You like his attention and knowing he likes you. That's cheating on your boyfriend in a psychological way!
Stop saying you love your boyfriend; until you can stop thinking about some other guy!
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reader, N91 +, writes (2 June 2017):
 You need to leave this guy alone.
Stop trying to be friendly with him, he doesn't want to be your friend, that's very clear. For you to continue trying to speak to him would be very unfair.
You probably miss the attention he gave you. Who doesn't want to feel desired off another person?
Just concentrate on your work and your BF.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2017): You can't "love" someone and miss someone else!
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