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30-35,
*m desperate for a baby
writes:i think my bf is an alcoholic he drinks every night when he gets home from work at about 4 o clock and if he hasnt got any hewill not go with out he will go and buy some please help i dont know what to do only good thing in this situation is he isnt aggresive when he has had a drink ? i dont wanna leave coz i love him
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): You worry me, your caption says "desperate for a baby"....I think your desperation has clouded your judgement.....and I am not sure that you know what a healthy relationship is all about.
Really, you are probably too young to understand this, but being involved with a young man who is an alchoholic is a definate deal breaker, you need to get away from him and get away from him fast before he pulls you into his addictive lifestyle...you can do NOTHING to make him stop drinking, in fact your very prescence is telling him that his behavior is acceptable to you, you are enabling him to continue his habit without consequence....I bet you even do things for him when he is drunk, like remind him to go to bed, or pick him up off the floor, or take his car keys from him, or buy him beer.
His condition will get worse before it gets better, the fact that he is young and this much of an alchoholic is a really bad sign, as the disease is progressive, meaning it takes hold over a person over time and makes them worse. An alchoholic will experience a disentigration of their very personality, he will not love you, as he is in love with his addiction, and he will eventually become very ill and die with it if he does not learn to get help and stop...this death will be a long and slow one, and why would you want to waste your life with someone like this? Consider it your wake up call, consider that you are lucky to find out know before you bring one of his kids into the world, why should your child pay for your mistakes?
If you feel guilty leaving him, don't mistake that for the strength of your "love".
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): Let him know clearly how you feel and if he does not change his behavior then you need to rethink about your relationship with him.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (26 October 2007):
 hi.
your bf, really needs to see Dr, councilor, he needs to join A.A. meetings, but the hard part is getting him to see that he has a problem, have you discussed this problem with him, if not try to, Alcoholics never admit they have a problem, because too then there is nothing wrong with what they are doing, be care full with him some times they can be very angry and strike out at people,the caption say that you are desperate to have a baby, maybe you should put that idea on hold for a year or two until your bfs, problem is sorted out, bringing a baby into this situation will only make everything a thousand times worse, sorry i cant be more help-full, please keep in touch let us now how you are getting on, good luck
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