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writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for a little more than a year now. We've had one disagreement but it was very civil, we got over it, and it wasn't what I would consider a "fight"Long story short, I feel like I love him very dearly and could easily spend forever with him, but I feel like something is missing? We are affectionate and healthy. We do everything together. Heck we even play video games until 3am and he often says "how many guys get a gf who plays video games with them?!". But there is something that was there when we first began our relationship that isn't there anymore. Or is this just how it feels when the "honeymoon phase" is over? Now our relationship feels normal. Like it's plateaued out waiting for a big event to happen, which I would love to say is marriage but maybe it's too early to start thinking about that. I just want to keep feeling romantic and I fear it's starting to feel like we're just best friends who are more close than your average best friend, if that makes sense.Advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2014): olderthandirt is meaning that after the initial honeymoon phase, things get routine. olderthandirt is also making a remark that sex decreases the longer u are together (think its quite a witty reply myself!). basically its a natural feeling afyer uve been with someone for a long time, and u need need to make an effort to keep things spiced up if u want some more sparkle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2014): cerberus: very true, perhaps we've just gotten into a boring routine. He's not done anything wrong and has not become lazy.
olderthandirt: your answer is very confusing, difficult to read, and not helpful... at all. Find a new BFF? This is my boyfriend, who I love very much. Pennies in a jar? What in the world are you talking about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2014): That depends really, OP.
It could be that something's changed, e.g. the sex has dried up or he's completely stopped being romantic or he's gotten lazy about you etc. or it could be just that you miss the initial spark, the excitement that is the fun dating stage of the relationship.
Without being you it's hard to know, you'll need to do some thinking about it and wait and see.
It's possible that while he's awesome you're just not ready to settle and you want that excitement of first seeing someone again.
Reignite the romance, OP. Go on weekends away, go have a picnic in a field and have sex, you know do fun exciting out of the ordinary stuff and see if the feeling goes away.
It could be that you've gotten into a boring routine and that you need to keep your life interesting and fun.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (18 August 2014):
 Of course the honeymoon always ends...Time to find a new BFF.In the adult world, here's the way it goes down; After maraige, if you put a penny in a big jar everytime you have sex until the first anniversary. Then from then on you take 2 pennies out of the jar everytime you have sex, you will never emoty the jar.
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