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writes:Ok i got a really close mate. shes amazing every thing iv ever wanted in a girl. i love her so much, she means so much n i just wanna tell her n ask her out but im scared that if i do it will screw things up. please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): ok me and this girl we have talked for a year non stop everyday and we have tried to get togheter 3 times but something always happens eighter i mess up or she does but we are best friends i love her and at first i didnt want to believe that i did but i do i want to be with her but i dont kno if she would want to give it one more try i think about her and if she is not happy im not she never open up to me intell i dated another girl she told me that i meant so much to her that if i wasnt happy she wasnt i love her so i broke up with that chick but when i did she said that she started to see me as a friend again so we lefted like that that was in late july early august but we always find a way to try to get together again i just want the next time to be the one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009): I've learned from experience, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger,& in your case, this means that if you ask her ( before you ask, look for signs) if she says no, you will learn from your experience, and it will help you throughout life. ( but in your case, I think you have a pretty good chance). Go on! Take a chance!
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reader, anonymousking  +, writes (15 September 2009):
i am in the same boat man. i have been in love with my bestfriend for about a year now, and i have no idea what to do. every time she gets a boyfriend, i hate it, but when she breaks up with them, i still don't know if i should tell her or not. i care about her way too much to ruin what we have, but i don't know how much longer i can go without telling her or at least knowing how she feels. i feel like shit, she is single right now and i want to tell her so bad, but im afraid that she doesn't feel the same way about me. i think about her practically every minute of my life, i dream about her, and i am absolutely miserable every second that i am not around her. she is the person that determines if my day goes well or bad. when she flirts with another guy, a part of me dies inside, and every time she hugs me or holds my hand i nearly melt from joy, i know that sounds gay but that is truly how i feel. i understand your pain man, but i don't know what to do either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): I was in the same position once. I'm in high school, but ever since 3rd grade I loved this girl. When I told her how I felt she said she loved me from the first time she seen me in 3rd grade also. To this day I regret not telling her sooner. Oh and I told her this year and now were in 10th grade. So go on tell her but it could make things awkward if she says no but that might not be the worst thing. Just know if you don't regret will follow you the rest of your life, as it did me for years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): male reader here..
i m very good friends with my female friends for the past 5 years or so ,,,but we never met nor did we call or each other .but for the last 8 months or so ,,we are spending hell lot off time alone like we never did before ..we never go out without letting the other know about it.shes got many male friends n also had many X bfs but its all over now,amongst all of it she really likes to spend time with me ,,but i fear that i ve started liking her ..getting attracted towards her ,,we go along very well but if i intend to screw up i could ruin my friendship ,,i dont wana loose her at all,,,
so others who are stuck in a moment like me ,,,,i think its safe to keep liking your friend as a friend ,,,or i think we could end up nowhere ,,,
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): yo dude i am in the same thing,have latley have become very close with this girl she now calls me her best friend. i have gorwn to lover her, i am also scared to tell her i lover her i really don't want to mess up our friendship. but when i do tell her i will i love her i will get back to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): I know exactly how you feel. I have been friends with my one of my male friends for 10 years now and these last few months my feelings have changed towards him. I'm scared to tell him too because I do not want to lose his friendship.
However, I have decided that maybe the best thing to do is next time we have a deep and meaningful conversation about anything and nothing, it is going to have to be brought up..I think I'm going to try being tactful and admitting I don't see him the same way anymore but I'm also going to tell him that if he doesn't feel the same way, i'm cool with things staying the way they are so he doesn't feel uncomfortable.
So I suppose my advice to you is this...If someone has been your friend for years, you already know them and already trust them and if they feel the same way, then you could be missing out on something truly wonderful if you don't say something.
Hope it goes well for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): I know exactly how you feel right now. Feels wartorn in my heart and in my head. Worst of all I know we had something at one point but I'm not sure of how it will all go now. I say go for it but you have to do it right. I guess leave her a clue about whats about to come befor you just do it. Would you rather never know and always wonder?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): Ok, well I think you really gotta feel it out yourself. You know the relationship you have with her. I had my best friend call and leave me a message saying that he thought he was a little in love with me recently. Now I love him to death as my friend but it just doesnt feel right or comfortable to me so as a result I no longer feel comfortable hanging out like we did before. It sucks because I miss him but I just dont know how to act to him any more. Not trying to be discouraging... just another point of view.'
Good luck!!
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reader, free2rhyme18 +, writes (24 June 2007):
Dating friends can be tricky and rather heart-breaking. Trust me, I know from personal experience. So what you have to ask yourself is, is it worth telling her - risking your friendship if she doesn;t feel the same- or do you want to keep it bottled away, - risking a chance at a love that seems to be so perfect.- Love is all about giving someone your everything.. Every last ounce of passion and strength.. and ultimately, giving them the chance to hurt you. Because when you give them that chance, they know that you trust them - and when you trust, you find true love. I wish you all the best! Follow your heart, and trust your instincts!
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