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writes:Right, I don’t really know what to say but, I'm 17 years old. I have my first proper boyfriend and I really love him, he’s the only person who has ever made me cum. But the thing is, I get slightly turned on by the thought of doing things with girls. I’m completely straight, at least I thought I was, I don’t think I’m attracted to girls or anything. It's just the thought of doing stuff with them turns me on . I think it might be because I know girls know how to please girls? Also I cant cum over penetration, my boyfriend has to play with me for me to cum. so, am I a lesbian? Or am I just weird. Also, does anyone know how it would be possible for me to cum by penetration?
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reader, AngelLady101 +, writes (16 August 2010):
its most perfectly normal for women your age to wonder and question your sexuality, especially straight women theres nothing wrong with letting your imagination run wild and being confused. you sound perfectly normal hun and many women experiment in their younger years and thats normal too. you might even find your boyfriend finds this a turn on that your turned on by other women as a lot of men have this fantasy but it does not make you a lesbian as you are happy and attracted to your boyfriend :) all the best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx guys you all helped alot. feel better now :)
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reader, person12345  +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Nah you're totally normal. You'd be hard pressed to find a woman who hadn't been turned on by the same thing at least once or twice. Sexuality is way more plastic than people make it out to be. Almost no one falls exclusively into totally gay, totally straight. As long as you're happy and attracted to your boyfriend, then you're golden, no matter what sexual fantasies you have. In a relationship that's really all that matters. Sexuality is not that important. It only matters if you're attracted to the person you're with and if you're happy. I bet your boyfriend would be totally turned on to hear you describe one of these fantasies (so long as you don't use anyone in particular)!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): Not a lesbian... could be bi... or could simply be sexual... Bi (IMO) indicates an ability to be attracted to either sex, attracted in the way of a relationship. If you simply want to have sex with a woman (with no emotional connection) you could just be horny! Labels can be too narrow. At your age you have the ability (and right) to test the waters... later, there are many avenues where you can occasionally get some girl sex if that's what turns you on...
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reader, AprilHeirwynd +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Firstly, I think that sexuality is always a grey area, as someone else here has said. You don't need to be a lesbian to have sexual feelings towards girls at all. If you find your boyfriend attractive, and if you have found other boys/men attractive then you are not a lesbian. You might be bi-who knows? But as you said, you're only 17 so maybe you're still a little too young to fully know. All that will come in time and if you feel like experimenting at some point with woman, it's a choice you have to make for yourself when you're ready.
As for not coming through penetration, that's very normal. In fact, I think I can remember reading somewhere that around 60-70 per cent of woman don't cum throug penetration alone (and to put you at ease I fall into the same category as you).
I am 24 and have found that If a partner can satify your sexual needs before actual intercourse, the experience is great for both partners.
I know that some guys like a girl to cum through penetration but if it doesn't happen-then it doesn't. You can't change how your body works!
Almost all men love turning on a girl-whether it's foreplay or not-enjoy yourself! And relax!
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reader, romany +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Your neither, your quite normal.
I have visited 'the other side' and your right to assume that girls know what girls need/want/like etc, but I personally dont get the emotional stability from a woman, I like a man, with his over opinionated ways, his self appointed way to be able to give you the answers to daily dilemmas that you'd already sorted 3 hours ago, his big strong hands, the security of his hugs and of course his...erm...dangly bits, lol.
Feeling curious about same sex sexual experiences isn't weird, even if you were to be a lesbian, it still doesn't make you weird, honestly this is absolutely normal, and I would guarantee, out of all your girlfriends, a high percentage will also be having these thoughts.
As for not cumming with penetration, that can take some time, there are different positions to help you obtain this, there are foreplay techniques that he can incorporate into your lovemaking to help, you can even give yourself the clitoral stimulation that you need to help while he is inside of you.
But please stop thinking your weird, fantasising is a big part of all of our sexuality, enjoy it.
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