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writes:ok i have a very serious and heartbreaking situation. ive been with my fiance for almost a year and the first like 3 or 4 months we were always happy we never fought. but now it seems like that all we do right now. he is in a halfway house and can only come home on weekends and when he is home we are fine we are inseperable but during the week it never fails he always finds something get pissed at me for and he is telling me almost daily to go back home in salt lake and that he cant deal with me anymore. but i cant see why im not doing anything wrong and he still freaks out on me. he tells me i havent done anything for him when i have done everything in my power to make him as comfortable with where he is at... while he is home on weekends he treats me like a queen there is nothing he wont do for me and he tells me that he loves me more than life itself and that he refuses to lose as i do as well but then he turns around and tells me to leave and i love him to much to walk away. what should i do please help me
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 You mentioned he is in a halfway house and while you havent given a reason, I imagine that his life might have been quite difficult recently/in the past and he may have a few issues coming from that.
If you really love him then you should maybe try and get him to see a therapist to work through his issues, its not right that he can be so lovely to you at the weekend yet when your not there he can be so nasty. If he really loved you he will want to try and stop treating you like that as he should want to do anything to make you happy.
Have you sat down with him at the weekend and explained to him how he is making you feel? He might not realise what he is doing and might just need you to calmly point it out that he picks fights with you for no obvious reason.
But simply it could be that he just misses you so much while he is not with you and that he is struggling with the distance between you during the week. It needs to be his decision whether or not he can handle the distance, and he needs to decide whether or not he can control his negative feelings and stop taking it out on you.
Good luck I hope things get better for you.
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