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writes: hi, i split up with my partner of 10 years 6 months ago in that time we both have had another relationship. but 2 months ago i thought i had made a terrible mistake and asked him to come back. i dont want to break his heart again but i feel as though i only love him as a brother. help
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Hi Jojo. What you're saying is that the passion has gone out of the relationship, right? Sometimes passion in relationships does go through highs and lows, sometimes it comes back but sometimes it doesn’t. You say love him like a brother, I guess this means you no longer feel sexually attracted to him. Do you still have sex? If so how does it make you feel? It is important that you say you love him but is it the type of love he wants and the type of relationship you want? Maybe it's you that does not know what you want? Maybe you're feeling insecure after your last relationship did not work out and he's just around to make you feel better... Ask him what he wants out of the relationship or are you both just looking for companionship? More details would help to give better advice but I'm sure deep down you know what's happening. You have to be fair to him. Tell him how you feel, be honest. I’m sure you’ll do the right thing. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): You have to break up with him. You can't live through life not being in the right mindframe and lack of affinity with your parther. Dating is trial and error and nothing more. Marriage is even constantly being tested with obstacles and external and internal influences. NOTHING is set in stone.
Be gentle and express your thoughts to him. It's only 2 months - not two years. Even then, even 20 years is a long time to be with someone and not love them that way, thus inducing an internal disgust of sorts.
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