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writes:Okthis makes me sound bad on all levels and i'm finding it really hard to keep this from the person i love.I'm a uni student and me and my boyfriend spend weeks apart from each other, on two separte occasions i've cheated. Each time the cheating was me not pushing a guy off when they kissed me.It happened each time because i was feeling lonely, emotional and unloved which was also mixed with alcohol. However i haven't persuded anything more while sober and it's only happened twice.I do love my partner but find it increasing hard being away from him. I haven't cheated since as i've cut out my drinking. I just don't know what to do i want to tell my partner as i want to be loyal to him but at the same time i'm terrified i'll loose him. I do love him and our relationship has grown. I don't think i'd cheat again as a guy kissed me a few weeks ago and i pushed him off which shows i've got control, but i know they say honesty is the best policy. I really do love my partner and i want it to work. i know alcohol and the fact the guys offered me compfort is an excuse for my behaviour. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): I agree. Let your own guilt be your own sort of punishment. No use hurting him over your mistake, especially if it's something you know you will never do again. Long distances can be straining on a relationship, but try to spend your free time doing more constructive things and less destructive things like drinking and partying. That's great that you've cut down your drinking, and really shows a willingness to be loyal to him. So don't hurt him over a one-time, meaningless thing. Just make sure it never happens again, because if it does, then you really do need to tell him because maybe the distance is just too much. I hope everything works out for you! Best of luck!
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reader, Mrs. Mom  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 Just continue the way you are with determination not to fool around behind his back. You don't need to confess to him--make amends by being faithful from now on.
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