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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: I am 17, and just starting sixth form. I have been with my boyfriend for just over three years, which is unusual, but we are both very mature for our age. We have been having sex for over a year, and although he doesnt stay over very often, when he does, he is allowd to stay in my room.Things are very happy with us at the moment, my self esteem is slowly growing and i am trying hard not to be jealous or insecure about his female friends.We have a healthy happy sex life, good friends and familys who care. I am not at all bored or unsatisfied, but i would like to move our relationship forward a bit. His parents can be quite strict (or maybe its just normal and my parents are very relaxed, i wouldn't know.) Im not talking marriage, kids, or moving in together, and i understand that finding love so early is rare. all of these things make it difficult, as we wouldnt even be able to give each other house keys as we still live with our parents.I do not predict that we will be together forever, but i like to enjoy the moment and have fun now.any help with this matter would be appreciated.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (8 September 2007):
I don't see a problem here at all. You both seem very happy here in what sounds like a fantastic relationship. You see each other regularly you have understanding parents that support your relationship. I can understand his parents being concerned about the relationship and the fact they may well be worried that he may give up his education to take things a next step - like getting himself a job to support you if you were to accidently get pregnant. You say a next step - why not up the amount of nights you spend together. Buying each other an eternity ring (NOT and engagement ring) and maybe having a bit of a gathering maybe to celebrate 4 years together where you can both say a few words to your collective friends to let them know how committed you are to each other as boy and girlfriend. BTW make sure that all parents are invited to hear this too.As for moving forward a bit - let nature take her role in this and you will find everything moving on at it's own accord as nature intends. The best of luck for the future.Trev
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