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writes:I was in a relationship for 12 years. We been seperated for 7 months. We both went different ways and had other relationships. Mines ended, so my baby daddy that I had been with for 12 years came back in the picture. We talked and talked he told me he stilled love me and that we can work things out because he loved me and my son. But he told me needs time to break the other relationship off. It has been 1 month that this happen. he had told us he was going to spend easter with us he didn't. I love him so much that I get to unpatient when I do not hear from him. Especially when I call him and he does not answer. I told him if he does not want to work things out just tell me. He said he does. My questions is what should I do? I love him but I feel like I am the other woman in this case because he still has another relationship.can you please advise on what I should do. He told me today we would talk tonight. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionElsie,
you are so right. It should not take so long to end a relationship if he is telling me he loves me. Since we had our talk and we both agreed that i need help controlling my anger we agreed to seek help. But the good thing is that he is willing to do all the counseling visits with me. That means alot to me. I will get the help I need and take it slowly to see what happens. But my gut feeling tells me that we are still in time to make it work because that is just how strong our love is for each other.
Thanks alot for the advise
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reader, elsie  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 please listen to your gut instincts.it simply doesnt take this long to finish a relationship and be with someone you are supposed to love???have you told him how much hes hurting you?give it one last try and then let him go.you were fine before he came back youll be fine again and a little bit wiser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI jsut want to say thanks for all the answers to my questions. It is hard for me to go forward on giving up. But I greatly appreacite the advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): thank you for the response, but it is sad that I kind of agree to everything you are telling me. I know if I could change my attitude and stop having so much anger towards the past of what he did to me. We would be happy. So I thnk you very much but I think that I will will him a couple of days to see if he lets go of the other relationship. If he can't let go I will take your advise all the way.
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reader, elsie +, writes (11 April 2007):
the time this man is taken to 'finish'the other relationship has gone way and beyond the call of duty.maybe a couple of days at the most.maybe a few teary phonecalls from her afterwards.no honey hes just hedging his bets.he probably likes the fact that he has a bit of power of you and is stopping another man getting involved with you and his son.you are feeling like the other woman because that probably what you are in his eyes.i think you should only concentrate on your child.his time is definetly up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYesterday we talked as he agreed. He tells me that my attitude is what has him away from me. He and I agree that I will not pressure him to come back home. I will prove my self to him with time so that he can see that our love is still strong.He proved to me that he loves me because we made love. But I still think that it can only be because he is a man and he will get it if it is there. My love for this man is so strong I do not know how to let go? Am I doing the right thing in playing his game? me give him time.
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reader, JazziBadAzz +, writes (11 April 2007):
love is powerful and it will take over you if u let it. You should never feel like you have to be second place to him if he loves you so much. Maybe you should talk to him because he may be confused or he might be trying to play you. Dont follow your heart into a trap. If he cant understand your love for him and commit hiself to you then, even though it's hard, you have to seperate your love for you and the love he has for your child and let him focus more on the child than you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): i dont doubt for a second he dont love you and his child,but you have to face facts that his current relationship is new and exciting and yours has got a 12yr history,looking at the typical male and the situation,he is playing you to keep you on your toes,he aint coming back to you and the only way he will is if this new relationship fails,just ensure he supports his baby and to be honest id move on if i was you,seems your clinging on to what was between you both
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