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*lackHeart24
writes:Dear Cupid, I'm back with another relationship problem but with a different man.This one is wonderful completely wonderful he does everything that my ex from the previous letters was suppose to do but 10 times better and he was the main one calling and texting me in the days following my mom's death.He's sweet, loving, kind, protective of me, he makes me laugh, he treasures me and he's the only guy I've been with that I can really talk to on ANY kind of level. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too so much so he wants me to move in with him after I graduate high school and he sees me taking on his last name and being the mother of his children, so if things are going good why am I writing to you right? well he told me he's going to the army for 2 years. As much as I support him in whatever decision he makes this is one I'm not so sure if I can support. He told his reason for going and keep in mind he told to me years ago his biggest fear is death he fears it so much that it bothers him to sleep because he's afraid he won't wake up.He keeps telling me that he'll come back okay and I want to believe him but I can't help but feel a little uneasy about it. I don't want him to go because depending on where he's stationed he could be near some fighting where his life could be in danger, but he promised me that he would come back to me the same man he is when he leaves and I believe that he will, but it's that fear of getting a phone call from his family telling me that he's been hurt terrifies me,I'd go out my mind if something happens to him. So what should I do?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 January 2012):
 If you love him and wish to be with him for the rest of your life, then you have no choice but to support him. You don't have a choice in the matter, it's his life not yours. He will choose what he does in life and you can be along for the ride if you wish.
2 years isn't that long, compared to those who go in for 4 or like my husband who's been in for the past 8 years.
What you need to ask yourself is if you can handle this??
Can you handle him living at other base turning this relationship into a LDR?
Can you deal with him deploying for a 6months-1year (depending upon his position) to Afghanistan?
If you can't (trust me it's difficult) then it's best to break up with him. Not every girl/woman is cut out to be an Army wife or girlfriend. Hence all the cheating and high divorce rates. But at least give being an Army girlfriend a shot.
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