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writes:I was going out with someone for 8 months and in the this time i found videos of him having sex with the mother of his son, he treat me like i meant nothing but then would tell me he loves me.He would get txt messages off other women who i thought he had slept with but he never did, i believe he never cheated on me but it hurts.We split up and after 3 months he has contacted me asking for us to give it another go and that he has realized where he went wrong and he loves me very much.I don't know what to do as i don't want to look a fool but love him very muchPlease help
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to the people who took the time to try and give me some advice, hopefully everything you all said will come in handy and i can use the advice
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reader, flower girl +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Go with your heart girl, everyone has a past and thats where it should be left, don't let things like that spoil your chance of happiness.
Evryone deserves a second chance.
Take care.xx.
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reader, xSarax +, writes (29 June 2007):
 And you can't move on can you? Because all you can think about is him. And if you don't except his proposal you will loose him forever.
I feel the sort of similar right now. But is he worth all the hassle?
My nan always said, "Men aren't worth all the heart ache. The one that is wouldn't hurt you." Which kind of made me think all men are bad. But they're not.
My best advice for your situation is to get in contact with other lads, you don't have to do anything with them. you could just text them.
Let him sweat it out for a bit, and if he really felt the same way he'd bend over backwards trying to make you both work.
Best of luck x
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reader, sixth sense  +, writes (29 June 2007):
The video in question was it filmed during the relationship? I have a lot of people that I have texted and I haven't slept with them. You must go with your intuition and make him show you with action that he wants you back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): There is not really enough information here to give you great advice, but in matters like these you have to listen to your gut first, and then your heart, it is your decision if he deserves a second chance, we can't tell you much here....if he was harsh and mean in the first 8 months of your relationship, it is unlikely that this will change, he needs to prove to you that he has changed to earn your trust, don't accept less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): Hi hunny,
Did this man at all make you happy, feel special, and loved.... You have to think if you were unhappy more than happy, just be carefull if you really care about him and you do go back you may well be hurt all over again...
He may have seen what went wrong and now wants to make up, dont let anyone treat you less than you deserve take care hunny lots of love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (29 June 2007):
 if he loved you would of he played those awful mind games?
move on is my best advice
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