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writes:I like this former friend who likes this other girl with a boyfriend. He likes me as a friend, but I love him. We've stopped talking to separate. Should I try to become his friend again so I can eventually move up to his lover? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much! You provided a bit more clarity for me. ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2012): Hi there,
I'm sorry but it sounds like the feelings are not mutual. While you love him, he is interested in another girl who is already taken.
Wanting to become his friend so that you can "eventually move up to be his lover" unfortunately it doesn't work that way. He may not see what he has right under his nose, but unless he feels those romantic feelings for you, it won't change anything being his friend or not.
Many movies have been made where best friends of the opposite sex enjoy being around each other while one of them has a secret crush, and as time goes by eventually something happens and the other person realises they had feelings too, but those are the exception, not the rule.
So you have nothing to lose being his friend, but if it's only in hopes of him returning your feelings, that is a risk you will take. He may never feel that way, but you can still be his great friend. However, don't allow that romanticising of him stop you from meeting or looking for someone else who would return your feelings.
Imagine someone out there liking you as you like him? Isn't that better? That is what you should hold out for, and what you deserve.
Wishing you complete happiness,
xxxx E
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