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writes:dear cupidi`m 24 years old and i`ve got someone who i really love but sometimes he gets on my nerves,like saturday we went to a friend`s party everything was fine until his brother showed up with his girlfriend my boyfriend`s attitude changed towards me,he gave all his brother attention that i dont mind but almost the whole night chatting to them i dont know maybe i`m being selfish i dont know,but what i noticed is that my boyfriend loves to hang out with his brother`s girlfriend and his brother because wherever they go you`ll find them together,they would go to parties all three of they wont even invite me to some of those parties you know things like that so i dont know guys what to do now cause i have spoken to my boyfriend about this issue before but its still happening please advice me on what i should do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): maybe there is something you are doing to cause him to want to gravitate towards them with out you. such as being critical, acting jealous, admitting to not liking the things they like, not being relaxed and having fun, you know being astick in the mud. iam not daying you are like this but maybe thats how he precieves your actions and he doesnt say anything to you and he just goes about his business. or maybe there is another "person" in this equasion which counts you out of it at times. anyway just lay low be observant and just show up unannounced not causing a scene to where they are one time and just watch objectively. hope this helps good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): I will not accept that kind of treatment.
"Abasement, degradation is simply the manner of life of the man who has refused to be what it is his duty to be".
(quote by Jose Ortega Y Gasset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): Dear Poster
He is treating you like this and it is making you unhappy; because you ALLOW it; you have discussed it with him but he continues; meaning NO RESPECT and or CONSIDERATION for your FEELINGS;
You have only got yourself to blame; because you ALLOW him to treat you like this and you TOLERATE this kind of behavior;
Surely you are not desperate for this guy? Then make it clear that you will not accept it anymore and see what happens; should he continue, well then you must be ready to wave good bye.
Best wishes and keep smiling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): It sounds to me like you're just a convenient female to have on his arm so that he doesn't have to go anywhere alone. If I were you I wouldn't put up with being ignored like this. If he can't involve you in his social life I don't see much of a future in this so-called relationship. What you do about it is up to you. The 'love' seems to be rather one-sided, and I'd label him as ignorant. It's as if you'll do until someone else comes along.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 November 2008):
If you do not like his attitude and you have talked to him about it and he refuses to change then you can either accept he will continue like this or walk away.
When he realises he is going to lose you then he may change.
If not then you were better off without him anyway.
Good Luck!! xx
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