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writes:hey, me and my ex boyfriend split about 3 months ago. we split beacuse i found out he was still with the mother of his baby. when we first got together he was the best boyfriend ever i used to see him everyday but saturdays as that was when he had his baby. i accepted the fact that he has a child and that the mother would always be in his life but i trusted him. but then about 8 months into your realtionship i had this girl email me on facebook saying he was seeing her and still with the babies mother. he talked his way out of this, untill about 2 months after when the truth came out. we split and i changed my number to stop all contact but then saturday i when out to town and seen him and he ended up coming home with me. he told me he still loves and that he was sorry and that what happen would never happen again, but im not sure what i should do. i do still love him and wish i what he did never happened, but should i give him another change and rick getting hurt again or should i tell him no ? please help its all i can think of
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (10 July 2011):
 Get back with him...if you want a life of constant worrying and stress and wondering if he is sleeping with his baby's mother because remember this, he is ALWAYS going to have a link with her through his child. He's already proved himself untrustworthy. I'd cut my losses and move on from this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): NO, NO, and NO!!!
Have you learnt nothing? You did the right thing breaking up with him and changing your number. Youde be a fool to even consider goin back now and here's why...
1) His words are useless. he clearly told this other women the same thing he is telling you otherwise she wouldn't have felt hurt enough to contact you.
2) Can you ever trust a man who has cheated on you possibly the whole time you've been together? No self respecting women would.
You were only together 8 months when you found out he cheated, this isn't very long when you consider some couples get married and find all this out only too late. How do you picture a future with him? Do you want marriage, kids? Because look at how he has treated his babies mother! Imagine if he can't stay faithfull even for 8 months, if a few months was all it took(though I reckon far less) for him to get bored and start cheating, what do you think he will be like when your married?
This man does not and will never be commited to one woman, stop listening to his words and follow his actions. He came home with you on saturday and told you all of those sweet words probably to get you into bed there and then. I sure hope you didn't give in.
Run for the hills and don't look back. There's are so many great, loyal, handsome men out there for you to choose from. Let this one go. He doesn't deserve you or your trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): do not give him a chance. men like this from what i have observed can never be saved. he hurt you once he will again. he lied once he will again. if you allow him to enter your life once more you may come to find him out the door within a week possibly a few mouths. remember he left the mother of his child . that alone should show how he can not commit to just one women.
men should never deserve a second chance. if he truly cared about you he never would have messed up. i see this sort of thing happen far two often to friends of mine. he is a loser also if he only gets to see his child once a week. do not be fooled by him. he will leave for that is the nature of such men. you need to find a nice key who will love you with all his heart. not betray you by cheating.
i hope you will make the right choice. good luck too you!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (10 July 2011):
 He has broken your trust and his cheating shows signs he is not ready for any relationship. Break it off.
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