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writes: I have got really close to a new friend....we have got intimate and now he tells me he has fallen for me and I have with him. Now there is a big wall! He doesn't want us to go any further, but I would like us to. He wants us to stay as we are, although he gets very jealous if I flirt with/or chat to other guys. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but I really want more! Please help!
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reader, mystify +, writes (5 March 2006):
 he dosent want you but he dosent want anyone else to have you , tell him you wont put up with it, and that you are entiltled to find happiness with someone else even if he dosent want you.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (4 March 2006):
 He's not being fair. He wants to have his cake (stay platonic friends with you) and eat it too (guilt you into saving your romantic affections for him).
This one's in your court, since he's not making a decision.
I'd suggest that you stay friends with him and still keep your dating options open. After all, if he's not man enough to step up and take the risk (to your friendship) that being romantically involved requires, then he doesn't really have any place getting "jealous" if you want to be with someone else.
So continue to be his friend, but date whomever you want, and ignore his petulant and infantile jealousies. Worst-case scenario is that he realises what he's missing out on, and decides it's worth the effort to be more than just friends.
Good luck.
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