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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: I have been staying with my boyfriend for 5weeks since he was diagnosed of high sugar level, just cos I thought he need me to choose the right foods and psychologically. So far, the improvement has been so wonderful. I started noticing some shady movement like someone somewhere who does almost same thing I do, such as call, ask how he is doing,what he ate and where he is. I know the questions being asked because I hear him just give one word answers like fine, veggies, outside etc.....He's always with his phones, goes out to make calls, ring off calls, pays less attention to me, gets angry with me, when he does something wrong, instead of apologizing....When he tells me he loves me, everything sounds like common words in a sentence, I love him and he is fading away.....I need him to see me very important. What should I do? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 February 2015):
"I NEED him to see me very important" NO you don't NEED him to do anything.
You are care-taking and being rather co-dependent with this man.
In addition it is NOT your responsibility to make sure he eats well and takes his medications.. that is up to his care team and his doctor. IF you do it for him, how will he learn to take care of himself???
If he is accepting your care taking and seeing someone else, then he's using you. You need to figure out how to walk away
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