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writes:Hi I was just dumped by my girlfriend a week ago. We have been dating for 3 years now and have a 2 year old son. At first I couldn't believe it, I called her constantly, only to be shut down. 4 days later she slid a note under my door saying she doesn't love me as a lover but as a friend and she needs her space. Me, being as stubborn as a donkey kept calling her asking why and telling her I can change, I know that annoys them and pushes them farther away so I agreed with her, that we needed space and we can still be friends. Now I'm wondering if this is a good idea, she has been taking me to pay bills off and we've been taking our son to the park and going to lunch together. Now I'm confused if this friendship time will only lead to a life time of friendship with her, which I'm dreading so bad, I love her way to much to just be a friend to her. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): I agree. If you love her and you have a son together, ask her for her hand in marriage.
It all depends on what went wrong in your relatioship. I would suggest that you stop baggering her. Give her a little time, like a week. Send her emails and maybe sms her but don't call. If your son is with her, then you do need to see him in this time. Email her to arrange a time that is best suited to her make your visits short. An hour to 2 at best.
Show her that you respect her and your responsibilties to your son. Then try and arrange a time to spend togethr as a family and talk to her about what went wrong and HOW you can change or make things better. Talk to her about a future together as a family.
You do need to be sure that that is what you want. If not, you may need to respect her decision.
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reader, sweetyforlife21 +, writes (28 May 2008):
may i suggest, was she the kind type that she mentoned marrage in the past when you guys first started to date? maybe she needs her space to think things threw, having baby as a single mother can be hard. If you love her i suggest you guys get married.
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