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writes:I love my ex still (im 21), she broke up with me after 6 years to be with my so called friend and im still deeply in love with her. Its hurting as much as it did on day 1 even after 2 months has gone by and i see no direction in life. She is having the time of her life rubbing my face in the situation toying with my emotions knowing that she has found a new sense of compassion and in it moving him into her mums house to be close to her and everything seems to be a carbon copy of the start of our relationship only 10x faster. I cant find the closure i need and im fed up of people telling me they won't last due to reasons such as its too quick and observations in her change of personality etc that are totally unlike her. I know that in reality any relationship can last if both are strong enough to keep at it but i just cant seem to let go. Ive never done anything other than care for my ex and i would give her the world if i could and its the biggest heartbreak ive ever had to endure. Suggestions / Hints most appreciated on how to stop blaming myself and bringing myself down in a situation that was out of my control.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): ugh i feel so bad it hurts i feel like dieing same situation but its like i cant control my self im sad and it hurts bad i need help reply to my problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFriendships are a big no no, at first i wanted a friendship but now shes happy she doesnt give a crap about me using me as a doormat when she and him are bored. Id like to think that he is a bad influence on her but like the old saying "theres no smoke without fire" and after the most recent mind game where they essentially came onto IM just let me know that "i was still an ape" did it for me. I was angry and confronted them outside there house about why in the hell they just can't let me go. Im sure in your situation its pretty much the same, your ex likes the attention but please please please rise above it and don't add anymore turmoil to your feelings as im afraid it will get worse before it gets better and theres no doubt about it that you have to be strong. I loved my ex immensely and its all be thrown back in my face after 6 years and i never did anything to force the relationship apart other than be myself. Over time it helps but ive had these mind games that have knocked me back thinking to myself well she obviously hasn't moved on if she wants to speak to me regardless of the purpose. Be strong and i hope your ex is more mature than mine and will let you move on if she has. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): hey sorry for the heartache
sound's like your going to hell and back i feel the same my girl dumped me after 15 month's all over 1 night. she seem's to handlein this so cool like she planed everything down to the last thing. she dumped me 3 day's ago telling me she has gone off relationship's. she want's to be on her own she moved out 2 day's after us breaking up. now she's haveing her hair cut i love her hair the way it is. she's planing to have her tounque done i hate them. do u think she's doing all this to hurt me? so trust me i know how u feel 3 day's after her dumping me (in a txt) i've seen her everyday.
can i ask you a question is the friendship thing working or is this a way of her getting away from you quickly?
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