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anonymous
writes:I'm deeply in love with my straight best friend. I'm 17 and bi, she's 18 and leaving here for uni in October. I don't remember ever feeling this strongly about anyone, and even before I told her we were incredibly close. She ended up guessing how I felt about her and reassured me that she didn't mind at all and wasn't bothered, but she couldn't like me back like that.However, she's really confusing me. One time she slept over, and we cuddled close and she said it confused her being that close to a girl, but that she found it surreal and really enjoyed it. She later admitted that it made her think about me as more than a friend, but that she then changed her mind. She tells me she loves me all the time and we're quite cuddly in public too. She's asked for more sleepovers several times. One time I joked about what she would do if I kissed her out of the blue and if she'd slap me or something, and she said she 'wouldn't react like that at all'. She called me the best friend she's ever had, and said I know her better than he knows herself. She repeatedly tells me I'm far too important to lose.Yet she insists she's straight, and it breaks my heart when she's gone on about boys before, and how I've had to comfort her through break ups. I know as soon as she leave I'll be forced to get over her, but before then, what should I do? What's going on between us? I think I'm just reading into this too much.Thanks :)
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (15 April 2011):
 You need to think about yourself and the fact you could get hurt.She is clearly very confused and unsure about what she wants, and she clear isnt sure what she wants if she thinks she likes you but isnt even sure if she could kiss you.I know you like this girl but trying to be anything more than friends with her is going to end up in a big mess. sorry but its true. Its best for you to just be her friend and look for someone who is more sure with their sexuality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks :)However, earlier this week we stayed up really late, and she admitted she's been very confused and thinking about me all the time, but she says she's not sure she could kiss me or anything. She's also adamant she couldn't get into a relationship because of uni...but that's 6 months away...she wants to stay round next week, but she's hurt me by admitting she might feel something yet won't act on it, and I don't know what to think :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): It seems to me like you've got two choices; throw caution into the wind, kiss her and see what happens. Or let her leave and move on. If it's meant to be maybe you'll be together in the future.
She may seem like the only woman in the whole world right now, but believe me she isn't. There are a lot of gay, available women out there for you to also be attracted to. So if you have to let her go, don't feel so bad. You have your whole life ahead of you.
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reader, viva11 +, writes (11 April 2011):
Tbh I don't think there's much between you guys..sorry to say..BUT don't worry when you go to uni next year trust me there will be plenty of girls who are bi and ready to hook up. Most girls go through this at this age..so iv heard :)I have crushes on girls ALL the time! Lol
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (8 April 2011):
Im sorry because im not going to tell you what you want to hear but i dont think there is anything more than friendship between you and this girl.Welcome to the wonderful world of loving a straight girl. It happens to all gay/bisexual girls at some point and is a total pain.If she has told you she is straight you need to respect that and not try and search for signs that it isnt true. juts be happy to have her as a friend, as hard as that is i know.
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