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writes:Hello everyone, am jus writing coz i really need sum advice and hope you can help me. I'm an 19 year old lad who recently has been seein a 34 year old woman for the past two months. I have known her for about three months and i first met her when i went out with my mates and we got talking and we have so much in common. She has three kids but she is seperated from her ex boyfriend. The problem is she worries what people will think and i think personally that shes worried i am gonna leave her in years to come so she keeps saying to me she needs to be on her own but its also t do with the fact that she was in a relationship with sumone else before she got with me. Now i love her to bits ive never felt like this before with a girl and she has told me she loves me to but she keeps worrying about the future an keeps sayin she needs to be on her own. We have agreed to have a 2 week break from one another but am scared that when we meet up agen she might want to end it an i really dont want that to happen coz i love her so much i wanna spend the rest of my life with her shes everything to me what should i do?????
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reader, single gal  +, writes (16 April 2010):
you should understand her point of view. u r still a teenager. this just might be a phase for you, or it might be real. she doesnt know. and with her kids in the picture, she doent want to bring someone into their life who might leave after a couple of months. give her time, u 2 should stop and think about this, are you really ready tosettle, because i doubt if she wants a fling. do you share the same values as her. what if you have to go away to college or something, she also probably thinks you may not beexperienced in handling someone with the relationship bagagge she will be bringing,. can you honestly understand if she cant be with you because her kid is sick, or she has to cancell dinner plans with you because her kids dont like their sitter.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Slow things down a little, this isnt a teenage romance. And this woman has baggage, past seriosu relationships, children.. and then there's the age issue. Things shouldn't be rushed, and you are already falling hard for her. This might be what scares her, and she needs things to slow down. After all she has more than just herself to think about. Have you asked her and talked about the relationship? What do both of you want at this time in your lives, are you looking for someone to be serious with or are you just looking for some fun? She might want something serious, and if you want that too then you have to take it slow and easy.
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