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anonymous
writes:Scenario:Me, a jovial, good looking 30 year old bachelor who is living abroad on the other side of the world for a year, until May.Her, my best friend.Me, I think about her every day, morning and night, and I've now been away 7 months. I'm quite a spiritual person and am very aware if my mind becomes unbalanced or if I become addicted to patterns of thought etc, like being infatuated with someone. However I feel like I love her.Do I?We tried to get together shortly before I left, but it was a bit silly because I was leaving and she wasn't keen on the idea of trying to stay together while away - quite right in hindsight. But we did experiment.She is a very free-spirited person. So am I I guess.I can't wait to get back in a few months and wrap my arms around her. I will want to kiss her but I won't because we're friends. Apart from my family, she will be the first person I will want to meet and spend time with. We can spend time for hours, days, and not realise the time has passed. It is not so sexual, although we did have sex a few times before I left, but we didn't have time to explore and enjoy it to its full potential. There were so many pressures and little time in getting ready to leave the country.Sometimes I meet very sexual ladies who flirt and like to get dirty. It feels weird being like this with her though, only because she is used to the "nice" side of me.. but I think this could be changed. She does love good sex and getting kinky. We're just not used to being like that with each other. First time we had sex we just laughed alot. But it was fun. I think it could grow.I do think she is my soul-mate. She's far from the perfect housewife/mother but she has a massive heart. She's my other half.I'm asking because I try not to take things too seriously. Life should be fun. But she recently started sending me more messages than usual. Perhaps she has broken up with a guy she was seeing. She did feel bad about seeing someone while I was away, and didn't tell me for a while. But I knew (through mutual friends), and when she did tell me I said it was fine- we all have needs and we're all free! I can be quite naughty myself. But also it was my way of letting her go because I loved her. She is just sending messages saying "hi" and "thinking of you/miss you" etc which is the normal sort of stuff we say. Sometimes if I've had a few drinks and am out with friends here, I'll send a message basically saying I love her (in one way or another). Next day I'll apologise for the message and she says "don't worry silly!".. I think she likes it. She knows I love her. She loves me too.What do y'all think..
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 Take it slowly, relax, and enjoy your budding romance when you get back in May.
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