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writes: My ex-girlfriend and I are talking again fairly frequently. For the past week we have been talking fairly regularly online and having great conversations. Me, a few of my best friends (her friends too), and her hung out last night, drinking and watching movies and stuff and had a great time. As the night came to an end (around 4ish) I gave her a hug, told her not to worry about the alcohol that I had purchased for her as it was her birthday the in a couple days, and offered to walk her home. She accepted my offer and I walked her home. She invited me inside and we hung out and talked for the next hour and a half or so until I left at 6 o'clock in the morning. We've been getting along really well lately, BUT she is in a relationship with somebody and has been for the past 6-7 months since we broke up (rough breakup, she started seeing someone new right away). Here's my question: Do I wait and continue seeing her now with the hope that her rebound guy won't work out? Or do I tell her that I still feel very strongly about her and risk messing things up again (I've done this before but we always end up talking again like nothing happened). I love and want to marry this woman. We have shared so much and have so much in common; I don't think that there is anyone else out there for me like her. Thanks for all your advice.
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reader, meowmixers +, writes (24 September 2006):
If she's with someone else, there is someone else out there for her so you need to find someone else. It's bad to say but we love the ex still hanging around. If it goes south with the new guy she can fall back on you and there are 50 or so other girls waiting around wishing they could have a guy like you. The girl isn't worth it and isn't for you, if she was she wouldn't have dated someone else so soon.
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 September 2006):
 What are you going to lose telling her? Nothing really and if you did lose her friendship through telling her if she didn't feel the same way then maybe that would be for the best so you can move on from this, if she does feel the same you stand to gain so much more.
I would tell her that way you both know where you stand and depending on the reaction would then depend on your next move either to be with her or to make a life on your own without her.
Good luck :o)
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