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writes:My husband and I have been together for 4 1/2 years, and married almost 3 1/2 years. When we first got together our sex life was omg amazing. I mean it still is....but annyway after our first daughter was born, my sexual drive was not like it use to. And 6months ago we had a son, after that I just can't seem to get in the mood to have sex. He is so attracted so sexy, and I am so in love with him, and I love making love to him, but lately I just can't get in the mood. I am on new medication, but none of them say it lowers me sex drive. Please can someone help me bring my sex life back? I do miss making love to him, and i feel horrible b-cus i cant get myself in the mood, i mean on average we do it once maybe twice a month, please can someone give me advice????
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): i have to say, i have a 2 year old and a 4 year old and i never got my sex drive back. I have friends in the same situation and ive talked to my gyn about it and i still get no answers. Before kids, i had a massive sex drive, you couldnt stop me and now, its just dead, i dont understand it and i dont know how to get it back, i wish someone would tell me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): The standard female excuse - tired and need help around the house.
Most men work far harder and under more stress - everything has to be done to a tight time-frame and when somebody else wants it. No woman has ever offered to take some of theat burden off a man's shoulders.
He needs to relax and enjoy some intimacy when he comes home, and if it isn't forthcoming........
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (13 January 2010):
 Hun, I suggest you go back to your ob/gynae and get a check up - full blood test etc., just to rule out any possible medical problem.. You dont say whether you have any help with the little ones...
Having small children to cope with all day, everyday without and assistance is enough to make your libido take a nosedive!
If you are a working mom - do you have any help in the home or do you slave away when you get home after work?? Ask your hubby to help you in the house, to lighten the load, hence you wont feel too tired.
Honeygirl
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 January 2010):
Children can be the passion killer. I don't have any, so my advice is only limited to be honest. I do know a couple of things though. 1 - You're not horrible, and the more you worry about being horrible, the more your sex drive will remain low.
2 - You had kids, so apart from anything else you're probably tired. Get speaking to your husband and get him to romance you again. Start right back, as if you were dating. Go out for an evening without the kids, have fun together, get him to spoil you a bit without the pressure of sex. Go away for a weekend (again without the kids). You're probably in the 'mum' mindset, rather than the 'sex kitten' mindset. So get your husband to romance you and make you feel like a Goddess. And make him help out at home a bit more too.
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