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writes: I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 yrs now, and recently I've been starting to lose my temper on him. I'm usually not like this, I'm always calm, relaxed, and I never lose my temper on anyone. He is the first person I've acted this way towards. Last week for example, I threw a lotion bottle at him, I didnt aim it to hit him, but I still threw it. And I'm always constantly yelling at him. I've never done anything like it, and its upsetting me. I dont mean to do it but he honestly just makes me so angry, that I cant handle it. I don't know what to do I don't want to be like this but I can't help it he just makes me so angry.Can anyone please give me advice on how to stop losing my temper like this, Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (15 December 2006):
 You may need some councelling if you have anger management issues. Is it this person or something he does that triggers something within you? Extra help might help find the answer.
There is a possibility that you may resent him for a reason which is not yet apparent to you. Communication is the key.
Try to find out why he irritates you so much specially if you have not experience this anger before.
If you really love this person, you must work at it fast, otherwise you will push him away.
Good luck
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (15 December 2006):
You may need some councelling if you have anger management issues. Is it this person or something he does that triggers something within you? Extra help might help find the answer.
There is a possibility that you may resent him for a reason which is not yet apparent to you. Communication is the key.
Try to find out why he irritates you so much specially if you have not experience this anger before.
If you really love this person, you must work at it fast, otherwise you will push him away.
Good luck
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female
reader, AngelofLove +, writes (15 December 2006):
You may need some councelling if you have anger management issues. Is it this person or something he does that triggers something within you? Extra help might help find the answer.
There is a possibility that you may resent him for a reason which is not yet apparent to you. Communication is the key.
Try to find out why he irritates you so much specially if you have not experience this anger before.
If you really love this person, you must work at it fast, otherwise you will push him away.
Good luck
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): I think (because I have lived it) that when we act angry towards someone is because we are acting out some unresolved issues with this person. Examine what your boyfriend has done (or not) to you in the past that has hurt your feelings. Maybe there are issues you are not completely conscious about because your mind is blocking them so you won't suffer. All the yelling and the throwing are means to get him to notice the way you feel. Don't be surprised about your behavior. Remember you are a young adult, you are still getting to know yourself.
I have a bachelor's and a master's degree in psychology.
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