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writes:Do long distance relationships work? There's this girl that if I'm honest with myself I've been in love with since I met her two years ago. We've never been out of communication, even when we both had significant others. Those relationships ended badly for both of us. I live in LA and she lives in Las Vegas. It's only about 4 hours drive away. I've been in vegas about 2 weeks now visiting her and friends. To quote a recent text "I Like you, but you live in LA. So it's fun hanging out and whatnot but ya know" She recently told me that shes getting older and needs to seriously think about settling down. Which I don't disagree with. I haven't spoken to her yet about giving us an actual go while we're both single, but I'm considering it more and more everyday. She always saying how were supposed to be together. Basically...knowing she's at a point where she's looking for something real, my friend suggests I give her a solution or an end game. Suggesting we give the LDR thing a go and see how things go...and if things get really serious,and we wanna "live happily ever after" then I will move here if she wants or I will help her move to LA. What do we think about this guys?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 January 2016):
 Yes, suggest this to her. A LDR can only work if it's temporary, and you have the end in sight.
My suggestion is that you make it even more concrete. Say that if after 6 months of being together, you will have a discussion of whether or not to move, if you should wait with moving or who should do the move. The third option for moving is also there, that you both move to a new place.
You don't want to keep the LDR going on for longer than necessary, and to be honest, if you like this girl and she likes you, I don't see why you need to "test run" it with a LDR. Just do the move. Don't even tell her you're doing it for her, besides it sounds like you've got a lot going on for you where she lives, being there that often and having friends there already. What are you waiting for? There will never be some "proof" that you are meant to be, a relationship is either something you jump into or stay away from, you can't enter one 50%, you got to be 100% into it.
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