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writes: My bf broke up with me to be with this other girl, Emma, a few months ago. I was completely crushed and hated her guts more than you could possibly imagine, even though we got on like a house on fire when we first met (before she started slutting around with my bf). they broke up on Saturday, and today i bumped into her in town. i didn't recognise her at first, but it freaked me out that she was so nice to me; she hugged me and asked me how i was and how she should get my number so we can meet up and hang out etc. Now i'm totally confused. I had thought out the moment i bumped into her so many times in my head, and i had always imagined that she would be a bitch and i would be a bitch and we'd be complete enemies. I really have no idea what to do with myself. I think i'm having some kind of fucked up closure, but i still want to kill her even though my 'ordeal' is over and she's being really nice, and we're actually really similar people and could be great friends if i gave it a chance. But then, she doesn't know that i'm still completely in love with our ex bf, and i hate her for succeeding with him where i failed. please help me, i don't know how to handle this situation xx
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reader, Anja +, writes (12 May 2006):
 She didn't succeed with him...that's why they broke up on saturday!! Of course initially your feelings for her may have been justified to a certain extent, especially if she knew you were going out with this guy.
There are two sides to every story...what did he say to her in order to take her out? Did he lie and say that you and he had broken up way before them getting together? It sounds like she did'nt go out with him to get back at you as you were good friends before all this happened.
The fact that she acted in a mature manner when she spoke to you suggests that she has no hard feelings and wants to get the friendship back on track. Maybe time to put your anger and hurt away and move forward. Do the same...act in a mature and selfless manner, try and get over him, he doesn't feel the same else you would be with him now right?!! Forgive and forget...life is too short....
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