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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I enjoy watching lesbians, but I love boys and think they are so sexy, I only want to be with boys but sometimes when I'm watching the lesbians I want to be in that situation for just a second but when I think about it again when I'm not watching it I fnd it disgusting, am I a lesbian?
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reader, R1  +, writes (2 April 2013):
 No, sounds like a fairly normal reaction to a sexual scene. That's why they put so much sex (gay/straight) on tele - people enjoy watching it!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 April 2013):
 no you are not a lesbian.
just because you get turned on by lesbian porn does not make you one.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (2 April 2013):
Dear OP,
Don't try to guess your sexual orientation in real life from your preferred porn :) What works out in a movie doesn't necessarily feel good in real life and what looks boring on screen might feel great in bed. However, sex with women is fun, I've had it and there's nothing disgusting about it. The only disgusting thing is society that makes such a big deal out of it.
As CMMP said, try not to put a label on yourself. Earlier generations never had the occasion to be sexually free, people married young and stayed together. So today, when we can experiment more, we don't need to be either/or, we don't need to chose sides. Try out if you're curious, and if you aren't, stay with what you already know will make you happy and enjoy the occasional porn :)
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reader, Myau  +, writes (2 April 2013):
 Well you could try it and see what you think.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (2 April 2013):
 On the Kinsey Scale (0 to 6), you might be a 1 or a 2 (interested in women, but predominately hetero). But let's face it, women are more physically attractive. Men are good looking in a suit, but a woman's form is art (yes I'm male, but virtually all of my female friends have told me as much). If you like to WATCH ladies, but only want to be WITH a male, then congratulations, you're normal. (Not that anyone in the LGBT community is abnormal.)
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reader, CMMP +, writes (2 April 2013):
You are exactly what you described, which has no label. If you try putting one of three labels to it (straight, bi, gay) it just won't work. Dear cupid is filled with questions like this- you're not alone by any stretch.
As you get older you may choose to experiment a little so you can better understand how you really feel. If you try something and you don't like it, no harm done, and then you'll know a little bit more about yourself.
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