A
female
age
26-29,
*ittle Miss Love
writes:i have really liked this one boy im going to call him "tim" for nearly a year and we have gone out a few times but have broken up over silly things, but he gets trough girls really quickly and he will want a girl and then when he gets then he doesn't want them any more... the latest girl he likes is my best friend i'm going to call her "lucy" but lucy is going out with Tims good friend "jason". lucy and jason have been on and off for a while but i think lucy does really like jason but she flirts with tim alot right infront of me which really hurts.... so basically no one involved knows i still really really like tim and he doesnt like me back and i dont want lucy or jason to get hurt... does anyone have any sugestions on what i should do or what i should say to them??
View related questions:
best friend, flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Abella  +, writes (25 June 2011):
 Lucy and Jason are together. But sometimes Lucy flirts with Tim. Tim is a player, no one girl can satisfy him. Because he particularly enjoys the chase of going after a girl. But the chase is the thing for him. Once he has the girl he is bored. And moves on to next chase to find the next girl to entice into his realm. Temporarily of course, because he has a Masters Degree in breaking girl's hearts.
In this mix you really like Tim. You have even spent time with Tim, and then broke up over silly things. Tim will always find it hard to be with any girl for very long.
If you want to check out how Tim qualifies as a player then find Anonymusmale1 on dear cupid through 'friends' on DC. It is the definitive article on players.
If Tim is smart he will not in any way go after his friend Jason's girl. A smart guy does not touch his best friend's girl. And a girl in a relationship, IF she is smart, would rather walk over cut glass than cheat with her boy friend's best friend.
Of course Tim will always flirt. He can't help himself. He'll still be flirting when he's 99, so look out nurses, in another 85 years time. He may even have four or five ex wifes by the time he reaches old age. He's not good husband material while he's an out of control flirt.
I think yo will find it is Tim encouraging the flirting.
I know you want to say something. But I do not think it will help. Lucy has it all. She has Jason and she has Tim flirting with her as well.
Gee that must really hurt.
I think leave Lucy to enjoy Jason. And the flirting between Lucy and Tim sounds like it is just light fun.
But it makes you feel hurt. As if Lucy has it all, and you have nought.
It will not help you get Tim's attention if you raise this with Tim, nor with Jason, nor with Lucy.
But you could ask Lucy if Jason has any other friends (male) as you are never going to be close again with Tim.
Lucy may not even realise that her flirting hurts you.
Keep your eyes open for another guy. One you like, but who is not another player, like Tim,
Good luck,
Abella
|
