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writes: hey :)I go to the gym every Monday and I always see this boy, I think he is 17 and he is georgeous, I don't even think he knows I exist. He always smiles at me but that's about it and i want to like speak to him but I cant ramdomley just go up to him and say "hi" can i ? but that seems the only possible way to talk to him and peaple say i am funny and pretty but i want to know what he thinks. But then he has probably got a georgeous girlfrind and only smiles at me to be nice i just want him to notice me but i dont know how to do that ? what do i do ? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): You should go and say hi. You're are right though randomly saying hi might be a little awkard. Maybe you could ask him if he knows how to work a piece of gym equipment, or how many reps you are meant to do on the weights? Or if he knows what time the gym closes? when you've broken the ice it'll be much easier to get a conversation going. Keep it quite casual but make sure you tell him your name and ask his.
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reader, No1 Special +, writes (13 September 2009):
 In my opinion I think you should just go up to him and say hi. I know this is easer said then don’t but you never know until you try. try to ask him a question that will open up a convocation for the next time you meet e.g. "Hey, I’m really sorry, I was wondering if you had some spear change I can borrow to get a drink, I left my purse at home ill pay you back next time I see you" that way you can pay him back and its easier to start a convocation next time you see each other. By the way he hasn’t got any change don’t panic ask him another question related to you previous question and that you can come back to him to thank him e.g. (in this situation) “do you know anywhere I can get some free tape water?”
After getting your drink come back to thank him and tell him your name, he should automatically respond telling you his own name. This means you are now open to start convocation, try to keep the convocation light and try to have short turns to speak the biggest mistake you can make is telling him you life story all in one go. If you start running out of things to say, before it gets to that awkward silence (if you get to that) tell him you better get back to what you were doing and say you’ll pay him back next time or talk to him next time.
By the way it doesn’t have to be the situation I said that’s just an idea. The main point is taking the first step which is the hardest part.
I really hope at least some of this helped and if you do decide to take my advice please let me know how it went ?
Good Luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): Hey Kate, hmm well he seems nice enough :) Sometimes you just have to take the plunge - I mean you only live once right! So have you made any friends at the gym? Do they know him or know if he has a girlfriend? If this is a no then I would jsut go for it and talk to him. I know you think that its pretty impossible I would be cringing and having second thoughts too! But you never know it might be worth it! I'd try smiling at him and once he smiles back say something casual like 'Alright?' see where it goes from there? Just try and keep a general conversation going but keep it short and sweet you don't want to say the wrong thing and embarrass yourself! And the more you talk to him hopefully the more you conversation will grow and you will get to know him :)
Anyways good luck with it all :) Message me if you want to talk further!
Love Charm x
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