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writes:here goes, i met some guy off a site a few months ago and we've been talking for like 5 to 6 months now and we just met recently and he was affectionate towards me and we clicked like crazy and even showed me where he works and treated me to a nice place, anyways he told me recently due to his work, he is not looking to jump into something serious and just wants friendship n also mess around... now we talk online everyday and he calls me babe, hun, sweetie, sweetheart, sexy, he told me he enjoys my Company but at the same time i just met him 2-3 times already and i have begin to like him , and i don't know what to do... now my question is does this guy really like me i mean he showed me where he Works , likes to chill with me, or is doing all that just to get to me ??? now i really like him and i am thinking i should be friends with him for now, at the same time i don't wanna give him sex cuz im not ready for it and its so out of my limit...P.Si don't believe in FWB and for me sleeping with someone means alot , i know for men its nothing but detached feeelings!........i hope you guys can give me serious answers thanks a lot ! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): From what you say he hasn't tried for sex so the question hasn't come up anyway. You need to ask yourself whether you are happy with what he has to offer, or whether you want something deeper. If you do, you have your answer, he is not ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): Well if he suggests anything you're unhappy with then you back off. Why not hang out and really get to know each other?Wait, you said he wants to 'mess around' i.e. sex? Right, well if he said that then tell him straight no-that's not what you're after. Tell him you value his friendship and if he wants to take it further he's going to have to prove that he's serious about you.If he's scared away-then he's not worth it. If he understands and says 'well yeah I was looking for a FWB but I want you as a friend' then that is probaby the desired outcome.Talk to him-tell him how you feel and everything you wrote down here. But I don't understand why his work stops him from having a relationship-seems like an excuse, ask him why.If you need more help, post again and I will try and helpBest of luckizi
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question?
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