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writes: I really fancy a girl at work. I have made a point of being friendly, without making it too obvious that I like her. Thing is I'm real shy, and I think she likes me, but not too sure! Mind you she does blush a bit sometimes when I talk to her. I just would love the opportunity to get to know her more as there have only been snatches of conversations. I know she is single...any tips girls .. and guys?? How do you tell if a woman likes you? (Am rubbish at picking up signals!)
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reader, vixie +, writes (27 April 2006):
 It may be hard but ask her if she has an email adress if she does email her and invite her out but dont say its a date go just as friends then when u get to know her if you like her build up your confidence and ask her out. ive been going through the same thing with a boy i like now we always talk and hang out with eachother. good luck go 4 it
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): i would say go ahead you said you think she likes you.so maybe she's waiting for you to make the first move
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (27 April 2006):
 Rather than jump right in there, why not try a more subtle approach since this is your workplace (and if it goes wrong remember you have to see her again). Why not invite her to lunch to chat about some work-related issue...go outside the work canteen, pick a nice cafe and have a chat; if you really get on the conversation will always stray from work matters to personal matters and there is your window of opportunity!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): It sounds like she likes you so why don't you just ask her out for coffee? The worst thing is, she'll say is: NO. So what! Like the rest of us in the world, the real problem is likely you are afraid of rejection if you were to approach her. Put those fears to rest and let's get this word rejection in perspective. While we all tend to take rejection personally, wondering where we went wrong. If she was to say No, it’s critical to remember that her possible refusal is a statement about her—not about you. In many, many instances, many people reject offers to date, because they don't feel that they'd measure up (is she shy, too?) or they reject first to avoid being rejected themselves or this person might not yet have been complete with a previous relationship. There are endless reasons why this could happen. I think a person just has to understand not to take a refusal, to mean there is something wrong with them because..the dating process is a process of ‘selection’—of simply building a friendship and an acquaintance with another and finding out if the two of you match or are suitable. It's good to keep your sensibilities about you. There are many factors that go into this selection process. If you do not ‘match up’ with another person, it truly says nothing about you, just that your needs, at that time, are different from hers.. So why not just muster up some courage, and go ask her. Take a risk. I'm guessing she'll say yes...but if she says no..stay kind and respectful. After all, you still have to work with her. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): you have to get to know her more before any decision make. she might not be the one you like or she might just be nice your dream girl. Girls are usually shy. She might not know you are shy too.Good Luck to you :)
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