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writes:Hey, so I like this guy at my college and we have been friends for a few months now, he is super nice and sweet and I really like a lot about him. However, there is this girl who dated him before and she is always around him. I know for a fact that they're not dating anymore and haven't been for awhile. But she makes it clear that she still has feelings for him...he was the one to dump her btw. Well, this girl has gotten pretty mean to me for no reason. After being around each other for a bit we had this convo (which i thought was rude of her)her: I only have guy friends, I don't usually get along with girlsme: oh, I can relate kind of, I do have a lot of friends that are girls outside of this school but here [school] I have alot of guy buddiesboy I like: well now you two can be friends!her: no thanks then she rolled her eyes like she was better then me. I guess my issue is, I have feelings for this guy I've become friends with but this girl seems to be in the way almost, and I really don't think he likes her back anymore. It sounds like a no brainer here, but she seems manipulating and mean. I'm always nice to her...maybe I shouldn't be? But I figure that I don't have to sink to her level. Btw, that wasn't the only thing she has said to me that was rude, just that was my example. Thanks for theadvice.
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reader, SimpleOne  +, writes (15 August 2010):
I am sorry that I got it so wrong and thank you for the charming correction - beautiful. Seems like you have no problems in proceeding hun - he'd be very lucky to have you!!! And the other girl would do well to watch and learn, lol. Best wishes. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo simple one: I just want to clarify that this guy and me are not together and he really has no idea that I have feelings for him, but we do hang out and talk all the time. He really isn't the problem, she is.
He usually isn't there when she is rude to me, but that time he was just like "well ok then..." after she said no thanks and then it got awkward.
But thanks for the advice!! I just think you might have misunderstood where him adn I stood with eachother, because if he were my boyfriend I wouldn't be okay with his ex acting like that.
Thank you Guy on Earth as well. :) I appreciate the advice.
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reader, SimpleOne +, writes (14 August 2010):
Run! Leave them to it! He, if he was any good, would tell her in front of you not to be nasty. He would also make it clear that he is with you. It is possible to do this in a nice way too. Why be with someone who likes horrid people. Let him chase you and not 'get off' on him being a 'stud' with two of you chasing after him. Been in the situation before - should have done this myself but I was just like you. Please learn from my mistake hun.
Best wishes, SimpleOne
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): Well, you managed to show your calmness in front of her and the boy you like. So I can conclude that you will be save with him because he knows how to judge between you and her.
Just stay calm and be yourself. Don't be rude to anyone in anyway. Show to the boy that you are better than her or any girls there.
You have a good personality. Keep it up, and things will just be fine in the future!
Good Luck!
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