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writes:dear cupid i have this crush on a guy had it for a while and thought it would go but now he is invading my dreams i really like him and i know one kiss from him would be a dream but here's the problem: he is friends with my ex who dumped me 3 yrs ago for another women and it got very messy cos there was a child involved and I'm afraid of getting in contact case he thinks i am a psycho when really I'm not also i really like him for him and not to be close to him so i might accidentally run into my ex or something. i not the kind of person that would stop him having drinks with him either so i don't no what to do my heart is saying go for it or i be driven mad but my head is worried that he might say something to my ex and i will be a laughing stock and slated all over again. what should i do i really need help can anyone help me
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reader, GentleGiant  +, writes (25 September 2013):
I understand your feelings completely, but you have a problem no? You believe that he may think you are a psycho. Try to change that if you can at all and then move forward. But there is no guarantee that will work for you.Nothing beats one on one communication this doesn't work then you are going to have to do something different but it may not work. You might after all this move on and put the bad experience to another life lesson painfully learned. Good-luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2013): Hi!Firstly what are the signs that he may be into you? If you jump straight in with little evidence there's a high risk of a knock back... Google "non verbal signs a guy likes you" and focus particularly on non verbal cues- like body language. Why would he think you're a psycho? What did you do? Generally I would advise to take things very slowly and very subtlety flirt test the waters to see what his response is...It doesn't have to be in his face... Things like initiating conversation, ALWAYS call him by his name when you address him, more personal give him your best smile and make lots of eye contact! If you're confident enough move into his personal space at a bar or something- if he DOES move away slightly then you can just put it down to having had a few drinks... Can have a bit more info ? :) xxx
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