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writes:Hey, look it's another teacher/pupil love question, though infinitely more complicated than others. And sorry.Well basically, my teacher is 26 (male) and all the pupils seem to hate him, he is quite irritating in truth sometimes, and quite geeky.But I love him, or I think so,I can't be sure wether or not it's just love like a best friend or something more? I don't want anything sexual, and would never go there (he's married btw, no kids) but every time I see him my tummy explodes with butterflies and I just want to talk to him. The normal format of our conversations is just a lot of banter, innocent flirting (I think he flirts back) and playful insults. I'm alarmingly observant, and know a lot about him (he knows this) and now he knows a lot about me, because he's helped me through a really tough time, and I literally poured my heart out to him. I don't know what he feels, he's quite awkward, he seems to be quite comfortable talking to me, and jokes along with me, and accepts everything I say. He seems to care for my welfare too. A big blow came when I discovered I wouldn't have him next year, and he stared at me for a long time (the whole class noticed) when he told us this. He let's me get away with everything, but maybe that's because I work hard.I just don't know if I love him in a different way to a friendly one, and not sure what he thinks back? It's extremely confusing, and I'm always thinking about him, I just want to know where I stand In this situation.Help?Please? Sorry it's long :Sxxx
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reader, Cenafan1  +, writes (18 October 2009):
I know what your going through, I thought I was totally in love with my science teacher last year, and I was told by a lot of people he liked me back. I was devastated last year when I was told I wasn't going to have him anymore and I thought I would never get over him. But I moved on to a different class, and to be honest, I never have completely stopped thinking about him. But the best thing to do, is try your best to keep your mind off of him, try dating guys within one or two grades. It will be hard to get over him, but trust me, it's worth having a relationship where you don't have to worry about getting him or you in serious trouble. I mean think, if something did happen between you two, he could lose him job, his wife, and possibly go to prison, where you may never see him. My best advice is just to become friends with him, I know it will be hard not wanting to be in a relationship with him, but if you date someone who can like you back, it will be worth it.
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (11 August 2009):
 i think he likes you as a student, and respects your hard work
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reader, The_Girl_Least_Likely_To +, writes (8 August 2009):
This happened to me. When I was between 13-15 I had a mad crush on him and thought he liked me too. Now I am 18 I am in a relationship with him (though still an affair, it's a right mess) and we've talked and he hardly even noticed me until I was 16, and didn't fancy me unti I was 17.All in all you're best off staying away. Don't cause yourself anymore pain. get out now before it's too late is all I can say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): i could write a book about teachers. I know what i'm talking about believe me. I'll tell you two things:1. if youre 13-15, he doesn't like you. He never will- you are a child. It is illegal to have a relationship with anybody in your care. He could go to prison.2. If he does, he is a very very weird man indeed and he shouldn't be teaching. Stay away from him. You're his pupil, and you do not want to get involve with a weird man who thinks its okay to date his students. What's more, it will ruin your life.
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reader, Elliiott  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 He's 26, Its just a crush, Nothing more, Nothing less.
It looks like to me though, He has a soft spot for you, Doesn't necessarily mean he loves you.
You're young, Find someone around your age, Time is on your side.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (8 August 2009):
 hes married thats all i have to say, if it wasnt for that i would say go with what your heart tells you but hes married so that means hes devoted himself to another woman. Im warning you not to pursue this any further forget about this man for your sake and his. you dont what to ruin his life an complicate yours.
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