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writes:HeyWell I'm in Love with my best friend's girlfriend - wrong yes.I've known my friend since we was about 9 and we both met his girlfriend and her friend on the internet about 4 years ago.I started going out with her friend (the worst mistake of my life). I started to get on with my friend's girl, we became close and just a bit flirty every night. I then got my mate and his girlfriend together, and split up with my girl 2 weeks later.I kinda lost touch with my mate's girlfriend until about 6 months ago and we got on just like old times. Flirty and talking a lot so, I invited my friend and his girlfriend to my 18th birthday party.What I didn't know is he didn't want her to come, he told her that not me. She told me this because she sees me as her best friend. She also told me that they have been arguing and falling out a lot the past couple of months. Then he was making her cry every night on webcam, about the same petty things, so I was there to help her.In the end they came to my party and this was the first time I seen her in real life. We got on really well and had a great night. So we spoke after my party and she was really flirty and told me she enjoyed herself.I then found myself thinking about her way too much and I eventually told her I liked her. She said she was surprised but didn't mind.Again my friend was making her cry every night because she was talking to me so I guess he's jealous already about us being close. I then told her I think I loved her, she didn't really know what to say so I just left it. She then had a big fall out with my friend and told him if he didn't change, she don't know if she can carry on any more. Now I'm just thinking he don't deserve her because he's signed up to this dating website, I can't tell her this because I don't want to break them up.Would just like a bit of advice and I'm sorry I've read through this and it sounds very confusing but that's what I feel... confused.I'm feeling very depressed and thinking about moving to Greece next year to get away from it all.thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question2 and a half years she hasnt told me she likes me but she acts like she does. she gets jelous if i mention other girls and brings it back to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): my situation is almost identical to yours. Except she has admitted to liking me as well. how long have your friend and his girl been together?
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reader, Crafter  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 Hey dude,
Sorry, but to me it seems like this girl doesn't feel the same way that you do. I think that, at best, you're her friend.
Life's very tough when it comes to love and relationships, yeah.
And there is of course the moral issue you have to face - respecting your friend.
You can't just go behind his back and try to steal his girlfriend. A real man doesn't do that. Even if their relationship seems like crap and they hate each other, you still can't. Ever!
My advice to you: Go out and start looking for a different girl. It may seem hard to face it right now, but you'll thank me later.
And just consider the alternative. Lets say you and this girl hook up. What then? You think things will go on the way they were? I don't think so...
Be a man
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): I say go for herYou only live onceBut keep in secretThen later tell your friendHe will have to accept itElse dump him and keep the girl
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