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writes:i have a crush on my best friends and i have been liking him for a while. the problem is that he like someone else which is one of my friends . they used to date but not anymore. i tried to tell him how i felt on valentines day, but i didn't work out the way i wanted to go. they tell my that they will never get back together but they still sleep around a.k.a best friends with benefits. i would like to be with him but i don't know if the best friends with benefits would work out in my favor.Should i tell him how i feel or keep my mouth shut forever
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 April 2016):
 I think that if you told him how you felt you would lose your friend that he used to date. The fact that he was with her and is still sleeping with her sort of means that if you are her friend then you should not get involved. I think the best thing you can do is try and get over him. If you don't want to and you feel you must tell him, then the best thing you can do is also tell your friend and ask her how she feels about it.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (11 April 2016):
 I'm always in favour of telling people. One always imagines people know what you are feeling and thinking but the truth is they don't. They aren't mind readers.
So choose your moment and try to be cool. You need to ask quite early on if he would be willing to commit to you alone. You shouldn't accept being one of many FWBs in his stable. You need to maintain your self respect. Also check out with your friend just to make sure there is not going to be a problem in that area. If everything is upfront then you can't be held to blame.
I hope it goes well.
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